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By Tapesh Kumar

There is nothing new in failures. Every now and then somebody fails somewhere. But there is always something new in every after-failure. Some fail and fall to rise never again. Others fail and fall to rise again and yet without an uncertainty to fail again. And obviously, few fail and fall to bounce higher enough to take a leap giant so as not to touch ground again in same life. And here I am, not sure of where I stand.

Each time I fail, I fall so distant from my dream that walking back to it is itself a tiring exercise.

By the time I reach back and recoil, I am hurried to enter the second gate, and the realization and penance start at the time of free fall with rarely anything in hand than to make the fall just not fatal enough for life.

At times I would be scared of light at the end of tunnel, for it feels so accustomed in the dark, cosy and calculated that blindness of bright light pushes me in the middle of traffic and suddenly I feel I don’t have anywhere to go.

Knowing a thing might be a knowledge; statically scattered in books and realizations of millions of lazy sleepy mediators, but practising one is life. Of all the things, the most common in all the deemed successful people- in books, celebrity or among around us commoners- sticking to one thing is common.

Keep on running, and remain assured you will cross the finish line. Keep working on a thing, and a day will come you could work on it mindlessly in sleep and that becomes coveted success for newcomers. Stay in your marriage, and a day would arrive you would stop whining and being unhappy about it and that is what would be tossed around as an example of a successful marriage wished and sighed by anybody else.

Being happy is real but can not be planned ever.

The state of happiness is an idea perceived by others, never realized though, not even by the one who have been perceived so. It’s idiotic to run after being happy, for more than often happiness drives at the other edge of road in reverse. So, proposing that you are happy in the state you are, however gloomy or star studded, is befooling. You feel happy to be yourself – is abusing. In real, you feel happy for what you wanna be… yet to be…

The real trick is to keep it close. Have immediate plans, and there you go, you are ambitious. If you have more retirement plans, than for upcoming weekend, you already have a step in grave. Don’t kill the engine.

Distant dreams are deadly, if today they don’t give anything to work for. You ought to bring them closer, and in workable condition and you are in the race…

The race of keeping yourself happy, not being so, per se.

(Picture Courtesy: hiddeninfailure.blogspot.com)

Tapesh Kumar is a Law student from Delhi University

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Ten Tips On How To Boost Self-Confidence | Life Skills

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How to boost your self confidence. Pixabay

One of the major things which pull back a person before he/she thinks of doing something big is low self-confidence. Despite having the skills and talent in them to achieve heights, they are unsuccessful due to their confidence issues. The fear of becoming a joke in front of 20 people stops us from doing a lot of things in life, and this fear leads to the lack in self-confidence. For a person to grow in life, one needs to win the battle with “self”. We need to have belief in us, which we can achieve a certain thing. But as we say, easier said than done. People around you may advise on how to boost self-confidence but for the person who has experienced knows the best.

However, there is always a scope of improvement in life. One should try their best in boosting their confidence level. Let’s talk about some tips on “how to boost self-confidence”.

10 tips on how to boost self-confidence:

1. Grooming

This is one of the best tips to give someone on being asked the question- how to boost self-confidence. Being presentable and courteous in front of someone makes a great impression. If our impression is good, then we are not scared of being judged by people. And hence, we confidently conduct ourselves and our actions.

2. Always think positive

Success never comes on a plate. While working on something, a lot of negative thoughts may clutter your brain and restrict you from going further. Therefore, the biggest things which can be done to boost self-confidence is not to let failure affect your mind. If you have a positive approach to life and do not fear much about outcomes, your self-confidence will automatically be boosted.

3. Get to know more of you

When you are stepping out to fight your enemy, you need to know every thing about your enemy. In this case, your thoughts are your enemy. Your low self-confidence is your enemy. So, to win the battle, start listening to your thoughts. Introspect your mind. A clear mind has more room for positive thoughts.

Also Read: Why Do We Gossip? Psychology Behind Gossip And More! 

4. Be generous

Being nice to others not just helps in improving your self-image in a big way.

5. Change bad habits

Habits which are unhealthy and negative should not be existing in your lifestyle and should be changed. For example- quitting smoking. Sometimes we don’t realize that how the presence of some habits in our life, act negatively for us. This destroys our self-image and reduces our self-confidence.

6. Smile

A small smile on the face makes you happy and the people surrounding you happier. A little thing can have a chain reaction. Besides, you don’t have to spend money for smiling. So why shy away from being happy. Also, happiness brings positive thoughts which leads to a boost in your self-confidence.

7. Follow your principles

Standing for righteousness and sticking by your principles always makes you a better person in life. This way, you already have a clear goal in life. You already know what should be done and what should not be done. This clears your mind’s clutter and allows you in being confident in whatever you do.

8. Always be prepared

It’s difficult to be confident about something for which you have not prepared yourself. For example, think about an exam. If you haven’t studied well, you won’t have the confidence of doing well in it. Therefore, it is important to be well prepared. This is the most followed tip in learning how to boost self-confidence.

9. Speak slowly

A person some power or authority always speaks slowly and clearly. This shows the mark of being self-confident. A person who just hurries with talks appears to be someone who wants to avoid things or just get away with them. Practicing your talk helps increase your confidence.

10. Be more competitive

If you are more competitive in life, you work harder to achieve certain goals. This competition automatically boosts your self-confidence and leads to a brighter life.

-by Megha Acharya of NewsGram. Megha can be reached at @ImMeghaacharya.

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Do You Only Experience Happiness, Sadness, Anger, Surprise, Fear and Disgust? Not Anymore! Researchers Discover 27 Different States of Human Emotions

The study has revealed that there are smooth gradients of emotion between, say, awe and peacefulness, horror and sadness, and amusement and adoration

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According to the study, there are not just 6 but 27 different human emotions. They have also found gradients between these 27 different emotions. Pixabay

Berkeley, September 11, 2017 : A new study challenges a long-held assumption in psychology that most human emotions fall within the universal categories of happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear and disgust.

Using statistical models to analyse the responses of 853 men and women, who are demographically diverse, to 2,185 emotionally evocative video clips, University of California, Berkeley, researchers have identified 27 distinct categories of emotion and created a multidimensional map to show how they are connected.

According to the study published in journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences journal, there are smooth gradients of emotion between, for instance, awe and peacefulness, horror and sadness, and amusement and adoration.

“We don’t get finite clusters of emotions in the map because everything is interconnected,” Xinhua quoted lead author Alan Cowen as saying.

The results showed that study participants generally shared the same or similar emotional responses to the videos shown to them, providing a wealth of data that allowed the researchers to identify 27 distinct categories of emotion.

Through statistical modelling and visualisation techniques, the researchers organised the emotional responses to each video into a semantic atlas of human emotions.

“We found that 27 distinct dimensions, not six, were necessary to account for the way hundreds of people reliably reported feeling in response to each video,” said study senior author Dacher Keltner. (IANS)

 

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Dream analysis: Decoding the hidden messages behind our dreams

The famous psychoanalyst, Sigmund Freud mentioned dreams as "The Royal Road to the Unconscious"

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Analysis of dreams. Pixabay

“A dream is a microscope through which we look at the hidden occurrences in our soul.” -Erich Fromm

 

New Delhi, September 7, 2017: The phenomenon of dreaming is indeed mysterious, and that’s where lies its appeal. The why’s and how’s related to this phenomenon sound fascinating, but are extremely difficult to answer. Honestly, we haven’t yet discovered the function of dreaming, and not even affirmed or negated the preposition, that there is one. Some believe that dreaming is simply an epiphenomenon or a mental activity that takes place when one is asleep. However, there’s a different set of people who are inclined towards the idea of dreams holding a bigger purpose, a profound one.

What exactly are dreams?
Dreams, simply stated, are the images or stories that our mind creates while sleeping. Technically, they are a result of neural activity in the brain. But apparently, this is the most basic description of the most mysterious of mysteries, dreams.

The famous psychoanalyst, Sigmund Freud mentioned dreams as “The Royal Road to the Unconscious”. Freud in his very popular book, The interpretation of dreams, put dreams into three categories: 1) Direct prophesies 2) Foretelling of a future event 3) Symbolic dreams. He argued that dreams are nothing but the action of unconscious, the expression of hidden desires, the wishes that we are looking to fulfill in our waking lives.

The proposed link between our dreams and our emotions or subconscious mind has been highlighted in numerous theories, therefore, highlighting the importance and need of decoding these symbolizations or dream analysis. Here we have compiled a list of some important symbols, visions, dreams that might have a hidden meaning and therefore, should not be ignored!

BEING CHASED: The level of anxiety that one experiences in this dream is so vivid, it lets most people remember the dream when they wake up, making it one of the most commonly reported dreams. It reflects you’re scared of something or someone, and you’re running away from that something/someone in your conscious state. Exploring what is it that you’re running away from will give way to overcoming those fears that you subconsciously hold.

Dream analysis
Being chased in dreams. Pixabay

ANIMALS: Our innate impulses or instincts show up in our dreams disguised as animals. They symbolize the aspects of one’s personality that the society shrugs off, calling them ‘uncivilized’. Different animals suggest different things, and there comes the need to identify the specific animal in your dream for a refined dream analysis.

Dream analysis of dreams involving animals
Animals in dreams. Pixabay

DEATH: Death in dreams is not so negative, as it is perceived. Death may represent the end of a phase in your life, opening gates for another fresh one. Basically, Something new is about to start!

Dream analysis of dreams about death
Dreaming of death. Pixabay

FLYING: Flying is often associated with freedom, or getting rid of the things that weigh you down. Flying, sometimes, also represent our ambitions and our desire to fulfill them.

Dream analysis of dreams in which one flies
Flying in dreams. Pixabay

FALLING: Falling uncontrollably symbolizes your anxiety to deal with the circumstances/ situations in your waking life. Falling from heights may symbolize the fear of failure after success. However, falling slowly may represent serenity, peacefulness, and the act of letting go.

Also readDecoding subconscious mind: How dreams can be guided by yoga

Dream analysis of falling in dreams
Falling in dreams. Pixabay

TEETH: Teeth are one of the most common dream symbols. Losing your teeth in a dream may mark fear of communication, or fear of appearing unattractive to others. Pulling your teeth may show that something within you needs to come out.

Dream analysis of falling teeth
Dreaming of falling teeth. Pixabay

FOOD: Food is believed to symbolize knowledge, since knowledge nourishes our intellect, like food nourishes our body. Precisely, it represents Hunger for new information or ideas.

Dream analysis of food in dreams
Dreaming of food. Pixabay

NUDITY: Nudity in dreams portray emotional or psychological vulnerability. Exposing body parts may signify the urge for recognition. The part of body that is being exposed can give more insight into what is that your mind wants you to understand.

Dream analysis of Nudity in dreams
Dreams of Nudity. Pixabay

WATER: Generally water tends to represent the unconscious, a huge part that constitutes us, but that we don’t know about. Water in dreams can have both positive and negative meaning. The quality, quantity, depth of water are the characteristics that help us decode the hidden message.

Dream analysis of water in dreams
Water in dreams. Pixabay

HOUSE: A house represents a structure of the dreamer’s mind, their inner psyche. Different floors and different rooms may symbolize different aspects of a dreamer’s personality. The basement usually represents neglected thoughts, whereas the bedroom may depict more intimate thoughts, those that concern the dreamer’s deepest emotions.

House in dream and its Dream analysis
Dreams involving house. Pixabay

Dreams, so it seems, always attempt to communicate with the dreamer, but in a language that is different from those used in the state of consciousness.

-prepared by Samiksha Goel of NewsGram. Twitter @goel_samiksha