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As we get older the feeling of celebrating our birthday fades out

Birthdays are generally associated with celebrations, cake, being spoiled, and all the positive energy. But it's not the case with everyone. Some people tend to feel more upset, stressed, anxious and low on their birthdays as compared to other days. This phenomenon is called birthday depression and it is more common than one would expect it to be.

Birthday depression, or the birthday blues, refers to feeling sad, apathetic, or disinterested in celebrating or thinking about one self's birthday. In addition to experiencing sadness, birthday depression can also include a sense of low energy or focusing on the past, including everything that one may or may not have accomplished so far. These feelings may arise in the days leading up to a person's birthday, on an actual day, and for some time after as well.


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But what causes birthday depression? There are multiple reasons why one's negative emotions tend to overwhelm the celebration that comes with birthdays. During our formative years, birthdays are meant to be a time of celebration. But as we get older that feeling fades out. Many of us don't care too much about birthdays anymore. And some of us begin to feel serious sadness when that same day comes around each year. While no person is the same as another but some of the general factors that one feels the birthday blues are as follows:

Ageing

Birthdays remind us that we're getting older, and time is running out of our hands. When we're young we don't think about our mortality but as we get older we become more aware of the limited life we have. The thoughts about ageing and our mortality only become natural and more gaping on our birthdays.

Person's 41st birthday As we get older we become more aware of the limited life we have. Pixabay


High Expectations, Fewer well-wishers

Some of us have particularly high expectations for our birthday each year. We expect to have a huge party, celebration, be showered with gifts that we have dreamed of, which is not always the case. In our later life, we encounter people who are very busy in their own life, "fake friends" people who don't care about us enough to rally around on our birthday. As an adult, we get less attention and enthusiasm for our birthday. Thus we get the birthday blues as we have no one to celebrate it with.

Lack of achievements

As one reaches adulthood, there is pressure from society that one must hit certain milestones at a certain age. From marriage, a house, a family, and financial stability, these are all things that one "should" obtain by a certain age. But not all of us have a smooth path or the same pace in life. So, the unmet goals from the previous year are a common cause of birthday depression. Feeling we are not where we ought to be in life can be hard to cope with on a birthday.

Family Dynamics

Not all of us have a reliable family, it becomes difficult because we can choose our friends but we can't choose our families. In such cases, our family becomes our very first social setting eventually the source of tension, stress, and depression. This usually gets highlighted during a birthday. For those who may have absentee, abusive, or toxic family members, birthdays may not be an exciting time to share (or not share) with family.

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Dr Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist and member of the media advisory group at the Hope for Depression Research Foundation says "Our diagnostic manual (DSM-5) does not recognize birthday depression as a mental health disorder," However, he notes that this does not mean that individuals don't experience depression or sadness during a birthday.

So how does one cope with birthday depression? Remember it's okay to feel sad even if it is your birthday. We need to get rid of the mindset that "we're supposed to be happy on our birthday". Keep your expectations realistic for your birthday, take charge and be responsible for your happiness. Instead of dreading over what you've failed to accomplish take your birthday as an opportunity to think about all the things you've learned and what's the deeper meaning of life.

Even though some claim that feeling sad on a birthday is just a myth researchers say feeling depressed in the run-up to your birthday is common. There is no guidebook to tell you how you are supposed to feel. You can celebrate your birthday the way you want and you can feel however you want. Sadness can be tough to combat but remember that your birthday can be anything you want it to be.

Keywords: Birthday, depression, ageing, toxic family, societal pressure, coping.


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