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You’ve heard people say the phrase “life happens,” and it indeed does but the thing about “life happening” is how you handle it. Typically, when this phrase is used, it’s used with a negative undertone, meaning, when “life happens,” something bad has occurred. Unfortunately, bad things happen, unfortunate things happen, and sometimes those bad things happen because we brought them on ourselves… It’s how you handle them that matters.
How you handle these life occurrences is what can be the difference between stressing out and simply taking care of business. Stress is your body’s natural reaction to situations or events that cause your body to overreact, whether with physical or emotional tension. Sometimes we can control our stressors and sometimes we can’t, and the only reason we can’t is because we don’t know exactly is causing our stress, or never really paid any attention to the triggers.
Identifying your stressors is just as important as how you handle them. You actually need to be able to identify your stressors in order to handle them appropriately. Unfortunately, stress is something that no one can escape or dodge, but it is something you can learn to handle in a way that does indeed reduce your stress levels.
But again, lots of people aren’t aware of what triggers their stress. So if you’re someone who does experience stress but can’t put your finger on what exactly is causing your stress, take a look at some of the major contributors to stress and how to overcome those stressors… These might be the very factors causing you stress.
Biggest and Most Common Causes of Stress
Paying bills is something part of becoming an adult and it’s something that can’t be avoided. So, because this is something you have to endure as an adult, you might as well find ways to cope and deal with it in a healthy way to reduce your stress levels.
Ultimately, the biggest reason bills bring about stress is because of supply and demand. It’s where you don’t have a large enough supply of money to meet the demands of your bills. This is common among many hard-working adults. Typically, most people will just get a second job to increase their income. But when you don’t have the time to dedicate to another job, or the time, then what do you do?
That’s when you take a deep breath and take some time to go over your bills and look for areas where you can eliminate a bill or reduce it. Your rent/mortgage is something that can’t be reduced or eliminated, of course, but what about your other bills?
Did you know that you don’t have to be stuck with your current electricity provider? Instead of paying for electricity generated by fossil fuels (which pollute the environment), you can compare electric rates from providers that generate electricity from renewable resources. Making this switch will cut your electric bill in half! You can also switch providers of your internet, cell phone, cable, etc.
Bills can indeed stress anyone out but you have to approach your bills with empowerment. You don’t have to settle; call around and see what providers can offer you the best rate for the monthly bills you have.
There’s not one person that can honestly say that their job doesn’t stress them out at one point or another, and that applies to whether you enjoy what you’re doing or not. Stress on the job can come in many forms.
Your job can stress you if you have certain deadlines to meet every week, if you’re in the medical field and someone’s life is under your care, or if you’re working in finance and you processed the wrong transaction by mistake. The fact is that your job is your livelihood and you can’t just quit because you had a stressful day… You have to learn how to deal with on the job stress because you’re going to encounter it no matter what job you work.
One key way to better handle stress at work is to make sure you’re getting enough sleep. Studies have shown that a night of shorter sleep leads to stressful events the next day. So make that extra effort to get to bed at a decent time, and then see how your workday improves.
Also, with work stress, it sometimes helps to talk to your manager or coworker about the issues you’re having to see if you can’t get some kind of extra training or help for you to do your job more efficiently. Nobody will know what you’re going through at work if you don’t talk to someone about it.
If you’ve talked to someone about your struggles in your position, and there’s no resolution, it may be time for you to find another job, where you can effectively do your job… You don’t have to settle for a job that stresses you out.
If being stressed with your finances and your job isn’t enough, the last thing you need is stress in your personal relationships. Personal relationships include romantic relationships as well as family and friends. When there’s a rift in any of your personal relationships, it can stress you emotionally and physically.
Your body will go through changes like headaches, problems sleeping, suicidal thoughts, and an increase or loss of appetite. These types of reactions can happen with any form of stress but relationship stress can have a major impact on your emotional and mental state.
As a person with feelings, it’s not going to be as easy to eliminate this particular stressor because you’re dealing with people, but it helps to talk to the individuals who are causing you stress. If talking doesn’t work, you may have to cut them off altogether.
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Atop the Vindhyagiri hills in Karnataka, a 57-foot-tall statue stands. This is the statue of Lord Gomateshwara, or Bahubali, as he is known to the local patrons. The surrounding area is filled with temples where each of the many Jain Tirthankaras sits.
Sharavanabelagola is named after a pond that is located at the foothills. 'Bel' in Kannada means white, and 'kola' means pond. This is a sacred water body to the activities of the temples. It is a tourist attraction and a pilgrim destination located 85 kilometres from Mysore, and 145 kilometres from the capital, Bangalore.
The pond that Sharavanabelagola is named after Image source: wikimedia commons
Since the statue is placed at such a great height, pilgrims are made to make a journey to the top of the hill by foot. They are required to climb the stone steps barefoot as an act of piety and devotion. Palanquins are offered only to senior citizens who wish to worship at the temple.
In 3 B.C, when India was ruled by the Mauryan Dynasty, Chandragupta Maurya became a Jain monk and took up residence in the Chandragiri and Vindhyagiri hills. He is supposedly responsible for the establishment of the temple complex at Shravanabelagola, where he lived till he died. Later on, his grandson, Ashoka made some additional changes to the place.
A shop in the tourist section that sells handmade items Image source: wikimedia commons
Every twelve years, a Mahamastabhisheka is conducted, and Jains from every part congregate to witness it. The statue is washed with water, rice flour, sugarcane juice, saffrom, sandalwood paste, gold, and silver flowers, curd, ghee, milk, and turmeric, and all the monks offer special prayers. The surrounding temples and rocks are preserved as archaeological wonders owing to the 800 edicts and inscriptions found here which span 600 to 1830.
Keywords: Shravanabelagola, Jainism, Chandragupta Maurya, Ashoka, Karnataka
By Siddhi Jain
The author who named the book after her twin sons -- Puhor and Niyor -- is a parent who has seen and heard the tales of ridicule and discrimination suffered by many in India and beyond. She says the book is an artistic illustration for kids that details how different families can live and coexist. Whether it's children with two dads or two moms, children with a single dad or single mom, and even multiracial family units, Borthakur's book teaches love, understanding, and compassion towards unconventional families.
Beyond race, gender, color, and ethnicity which have formed the bases for discrimination since the beginning of time, this book aims to bring to light a largely ignored issue. For so long, single parents have been treated like a taboo without any attempt to understand their situations; no one really cares how or why one's marriage ended but just wants to treat single parents as villains simply for choosing happiness and loving their children.
Homosexual parents, a relatively new family system, is another form that has suffered hate and discrimination for many years. Pritisha emphasizes the need to understand that diversity in people and family is what makes the world beautiful and colourful. 'Puhor and Niyor's Mural of Family Stories' is a firm but compassionate statement against all forms of discrimination on the bases of sexual identity, gender, race, and even differences in background
'Puhor and Niyor's Mural of Family Stories' is a firm but compassionate statement against all forms of discrimination on the bases of sexual identity, gender, race and even differences in background. | Photo by Ben Wicks on Unsplash
Written for a global audience, the book is targeted at kids between the ages of five and 10, the reason it is embellished with colourful images of families of different types is to appeal to children's sense of sight and drive home the message at the same time. Borthakur believes children are the best place to start because the ages between five and 10 are the most formative, where little ones pick up habits, beliefs and perceptions.
The Guwahati-born author says, "With this book, I'm not trying to take away the job of parents in forming habits, I simply want to do my part as a parent. It is important that we impart the right values in our kids in a bid to build a better, more inclusive and tolerant global society that is fair to everyone." The author's first attempt at a book was an Assamese poetry 'Anubhav', published in 2010.
Set to be published under the label of Author's Channel, the book is like an adventure; a journey into uncharted territories, untouched subjects and matters long ignored. In her words. "The book takes a critical stand in defense of people in society who have had to undergo severe emotional torture for no cause of theirs. It is a terrible conception to think such people any less of a human just for being different," says publisher Aruna Naidu. By September 30, this title, priced at Rs 299, will be available online and in offline bookstores. (IANS/ MBI)
Keywords: Book, children, Guwahati, Puhor and Niyor's Mural of Family Stories, moral, story, kids, discrimination, equality
If you feel that clean and well-groomed hands are just an essential prerequisite for women, you might like to think twice. Men should equally pay attention to their hands because our hand houses 1,500 bacteria living on each square centimeter of its skin. You can easily assume what havoc it can create in our body because in India we have the culture of eating with our hands and spaces beneath nails can become breeding heaven for germs. Moreover, clean and maintained hands boost confidence in their daily life activities. Therefore, it's important to keep your hands clean irrespective of your gender by washing or sanitizing at regular intervals. And, to keep them groomed, you don't have to visit a salon.
Rajesh U Pandya, Managing Director, KAI India, gives easy and completely doable tips to follow at home:
* Refrain from harsh soaps: You should be mindful of the soap you are using to wash your hands. Your soap can have a moisturizing element in it like aloe vera or shea butter. Ensure that you're washing your hands with normal water as hot water can make your hand's skin dry and scaly.
You should be mindful of the soap you are using to wash your hands. | Photo by Aurélia Dubois on Unsplash
* Clip your nails regularly: Make use of your personal nail clipper to cut your nails. After cutting your nails at a comfortable length also file them using a nail filer. Never share your nail care clipper as the germs can get transferred to your loved ones. Also, don't forget to use grime remover to remove hidden germs in corners and beneath nails. Also, you may like to file your nails to have a smooth finish.
* Good quality Nail Clipper: Do not use a rusted or chromium coated nail clipper as it might be harmful to skin and might cause dangerous bacterial infections.
* Stop the habit of nail chewing: Sometimes anxiety or extreme boredom can lead to chewing of nails. This habit only makes your nails uneven and ugly. Sometimes, our unclean nail folds give rise to viral, bacterial or fungal infections, which in turn can make us sick if we chew our nails.
Make use of your personal nail clipper to cut your nails. | Pixabay
* Exfoliate your hands: Similar to the way you exfoliate your face; your hands also need it. It helps to keep the dry skin at bay and keep your hands soft. You can buy a scrub or make one at home using brown sugar and olive oil. After scrubbing, you need to massage your hands with moisturizer.
Similar to the way you exfoliate your face; your hands also need it. It helps to keep the dry skin at bay and keep your hands soft. | Wikipedia
* Don't use your nails as tools: Always keep in mind that your nails are like jewels. Never use them to pry things open such as pop cans, removing keys from the ring, opening letters, or scraping off labels. This results in unnecessary breakage of nails, making your hands look dirty.
Never use your nails to pry things open such as pop cans, removing keys from the ring, opening letters or scraping off labels. | Photo by Sammy Williams on Unsplash
* Be aware of nail or cuticle inflammation or redness: If there are any signs of infection, disinfect the skin as soon as possible with an anti-bacterial or anti-fungal ointment.
(Article originally written by N.Lothungbeni Humtsoe) (IANS/ MBI)
Keywords: Nails, groom, hand, exfoliate, chew, nail clipper, bite, cuticle