New Delhi, September 22, 2017 : “He was …. nice.” That is what our girl friends usually tell us about a guy they go out on a date with, don’t they?
Over a conversation that lasts 30 minutes, they go on and on about how he was at the restaurant before she reached, pulled out the chair for her. Allowed her to order food, opened doors for her, and even showed interest when she mentioned her dog (We don’t know about you, but a guy who loves dogs? Yes please!) All this, but he was just ‘nice’.
Does she plan to see him soon? She “doesn’t know”.
Our society has created a negative image of the ‘nice guys.’ It is a way to describe someone who is timid, subtle in his efforts, and inexperienced. Or, from what we have understood from conversations, “not that interesting.” He’s just “nice.”
In an attempt to find our perfect match, we often immediately ignore such ‘nice’ guys we encounter on the way. It’s not very difficult, especially when the players are irresistible, look dreamy and have just the right words to say. But little do we know, by immediately ignoring the Beeba Munda (nice guy), we could be overlooking the ‘good’ guy we are on the look out for.
Take it from a single girl (yes, we know better about relationships than those in it), the next time you’re on a date and begin to realize how ‘nice’ this guy is, you must start to recognize the following positive qualities instead of immediately eliminating all future chances,
They Invest Their Mind In You
They will keep a note of your schedule, ask about that meeting you were worried about and make sure they listen to you rant about how you dislike your job and how your mother never understands you. Be sure to always be in their thought and rightfully so.
They Notice The Little Things
Not just to what we say (that’s a basic, though), but to how we do the things we do and all our little quirks. They notice how you like having pizza crusts, follows up on that presentation you were nervous about and makes sure to check during the day if you’re doing good. These gestures show how genuinely interested he is, that he cares to know her better. (Ah, this is what dreams are made of)
They Motivate You To Be A Better Person
They will remind you to call your parents, never stop you from gorging on junk food but will make sure you eat your greens too. Nice guys make sure they include you in their plans which are, nice too.
They Will Be Totally Trustworthy
Well, they are called nice guys for a reason, right? The absence of trust in a relationship never allows for a rock solid foundation. How will a relationship survive then?
Nice guys won’t lie, cheat, manipulate or play games with you. They will not just be your partner; they will be your best friend.
They Give You Something Real
Wasting time on the wrong guys can be exhausting. They make you question yourself, leave you hanging and you often feel an urge to give up on the entire idea of dating.
Nice guys, on the other hand, will be everything you would want in your partner. They will be honest, and will not shy away from accepting they are wrong. You will see sincere affection in their actions and they will stand by you for all the right reasons.
They are Perfectly Imperfect
He may not have 6-pack abs, but he’ll have shoulders strong enough for a warm embrace. He may not be the tallest, but he’ll be tall enough to help you pick out jars from shelves you cannot reach. He may not be impeccably dressed, but he will invest time and effort to put his best forward. Someone who is not just aware of, but is okay with his imperfections and doesn’t try to hide them.
Nice guys are just that – they understand their shortcomings and know just how to work with them in their stride.
They Restore Your Faith
Dating the players can be exhausting and disheartening. But just when you thought you should give up on the idea of dating, you meet a nice guy. And he turns out to be everything you had ever wished for.
Even at your worst, he will love and support you just the same as when you are at your best. Yes, not all guys suck and opening yourself to the right guy will restore your faith and prove that real relationships do exist, after all.
They Have Been Friend-Zoned Before
Nice guys have their fair share of time spent in friends-only territory, and they know a thing or two about listening to women, giving them advice and helping them through tough times. All these qualities are the kind of thing we look for in our potential partners.
They Make Us Want The Happy Ending
All of us dream of a ‘happily ever after’ but if we keep choosing the wrong guy and getting our heart broken repeatedly, it can be difficult to keep that dream alive. Sure, we have all had bad dates, failed relationships and almost-relationships but when you find the right guy, he proves why it has all been worth the wait
They Change Our Type
Whether we admit it or not, nice guys are usually not on the top of our desired list. After all, there is something irresistible about a smooth talker, and we often have trouble breaking away from guys who spell total trouble. But once you are open to something new, you realize it was not that bad to give the nice guy a shot..