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How To Deal With A Jealous Partner?

This issue can’t get fixed over a day. But if you be patient and show your partner that you are always with him/her, by supporting through problems, discussing fears, celebrating small but important victories, and take it one day at a time, things will definitely change.

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Anxiety and fear are the two most common human emotions that lead to jealousy.

How harmful is jealousy?

Jealousy is enough to kill a relationship. Although at the beginning of the relationship, you might feel jealousy to be cute, with the time you will be able to see the true negative picture of jealousy.

What can be done?

Here are certain ways to deal with a jealous partner:

  • You should talk to your partner about his/her anxieties and fears

Anxiety and fear are the two most common human emotions that lead to jealousy. So to deal with a jealous partner, the first thing you must do is talk to him/her that the reasons for his/her anxieties and fears with the relationship and you.

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Most importantly when your partner decides to confess, instead of attacking him/her, show your empathy and try to solve the issue. Pixabay

The reason can be anything from she’s putting up weight which makes her thinks that you don’t love him anymore to your past casual relationship which you ended years ago, reasons can be very weird. But most importantly when your partner decides to confess, instead of attacking him/her, show your empathy and try to solve the issue.

  • Never develop defensive behavior

If you are being accused by your partner for something which you actually haven’t done, don’t start an argument about it. The more get defensive, the chances are that your partner will misinterpret the reaction and think that you are defensive because you want to hide something. Instead, you should reassure your partner that you haven’t done what he/she accused you of doing and settle the fear that your partner has developed.

  • Show all your affection

It’s time for you to show all your affection towards your partner. No matter how rude he/she behaves, don’t deny showing your partner how much he/she means to you. This would definitely help your partner to psychologically heal faster .

  • Create a boundary

This is a very sensible way of handling a relationship. Discuss with your partner about the likes and dislikes of each other and set boundaries accordingly so that in the long run things don’t get ugly and hence there are no chances for the rise of jealousy.

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It’s time for you to show all your affection towards your partner. Pixabay
  • Be responsive and available to your partner

Yes, it is your partner’s problem and he/she is the one to fix it. But instead of avoiding the issue be responsive about it. When your partner needs you the most, if you make yourself available for any help then the habits of jealousy often gets eroded. This also would help to redevelop the trust issues in the relationship.

  • Be patient to earn your back partner’s trust

This issue can’t get fixed over a day. But if you be patient and show your partner that you are always with him/her, by supporting through problems, discussing fears, celebrating small but important victories, and take it one day at a time, things will definitely change.

  • Make sure there isn’t a communication gap

Communication gap is the poison that spoils everything. The root of all fears, anxieties and doubts are because of communication gap. To develop healthy communication and make time for your partner. There won’t be any scope for jealousy to be created.

A jealous partner, in the long run, becomes intrusive and irritating. This is enough to spoil the love that you have for your partner and ultimately affect your relationship in a negative way. So try to sort out the issue and if all the damage-control measures fail, then it’s better to move out of the relationship. 

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Life Story Worth Knowing, Manipuri Woman Autodriver Earns Daily Bread for Family

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I think I will drive my auto all my life. I like driving. It suits me, Pixabay

When Laibi Oinam got in the front seat of a second-hand auto-rickshaw as a driver almost a decade ago, she received a lot of negative attention from people in her home state of Manipur in northeast India. But her life took a new turn in 2015 when her struggle to get passengers and earn her daily bread to support her ailing husband and young sons caught a filmmakers attention.

Now in her 50s, Laibi has bought herself a new auto-rickshaw, her younger son is inching closer to his football dream and she enjoys respect in the same society that once looked down upon her for driving an auto and breaking another glass ceiling for women without really knowing it.

Laibi says that she didn’t take up the job of an autodriver in 2011 to challenge stereotypes. Her husband’s deteriorating health and sons’ education demanded more money. What she earned by working in a brick kiln was insufficient. So, she collected money through chit fund and bought a second-hand auto.

“I rented it out to others but we didn’t get much money out of it. Meanwhile my husband got unwell, so I decided to start driving,” Laibi told IANS in a telephonic interview from Imphal.

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The emotional story connected with many. It even bagged the best social issue film in the non-feature category at the 63rd edition of National Film awards. Pixabay

Whether it is fighting for a cause or selling vegetables or handloom weaving, traditional male bastions, women in Manipur have always been in the forefront of society. But the same can’t be said about autodrivers.

“When I started driving auto in 2011, I used to wear phanek (traditional wear of Manipuri women). Later on, I changed to pants as people often refused to take rides because of my gender and outfit,” said Laibi, who learnt how to drive on a Vespa.

Since the sight of women autodrivers was not a common one in Manipur, it caught the attention of film director Meena Longjam.

“I met her in 2012. It was an accidental encounter. There were many male autodrivers in the market and then there was this one woman waiting to get passengers in her auto. I had never thought that a woman could drive an auto in Manipur,” said the Madras Christian College alumnus.

An article on Laibi piqued Meena’s interest.

“Someone had written an article on her. Then I thought of talking to her. Also, I remember back in 2011, there was an economic blockade in Manipur for so many months that it crippled all of us. I thought of sending out a message to people through my film.

“I wanted to show how despite all the problems in the state, a woman is working hard to support her family,” said the filmmaker.

The documentary “Autodriver” is barely of 30 minutes but Meena gave about three years of her life to it.

“It took me time to build rapport with her. I wanted her to feel comfortable so that she could open up and tell me her story,” she said.

“While talking to her, I noticed that Laibi has big dreams for her children. Though one of her sons had to drop out of a Sainik school due to her financial condition, she still dreams big. She wants her elder son to become an IAS officer and younger son a footballer.

“Her journey is very emotional. She does all the household chores and then heads out to earn money as an autodriver — a challenging job for a woman in Manipur,” she added.

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Laibi says that she didn’t take up the job of an autodriver in 2011 to challenge stereotypes. Her husband’s deteriorating health and sons’ education demanded more money. Pixabay

The emotional story connected with many. It even bagged the best social issue film in the non-feature category at the 63rd edition of National Film awards.

“Now I am a known face. A lot of people have started supporting me. Even traffic police officials don’t bother me much. My younger son is studying in a football academy in Chandigarh. The elder one is almost done with his graduation. I earn around Rs 1,000 per day,” said Laibi, almost twice what she earned when she started out on her challenging journey..

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So once her sons start earning, will she quit driving?

“I know how to make ‘phee’ (traditional Manipuri handloom long scarf) but I don’t enjoy doing it. I think I will drive my auto all my life. I like driving. It suits me,” said Laibi. (IANS)