How harmful is jealousy?
Jealousy is enough to kill a relationship. Although at the beginning of the relationship, you might feel jealousy to be cute, with the time you will be able to see the true negative picture of jealousy.
What can be done?
Here are certain ways to deal with a jealous partner:
- You should talk to your partner about his/her anxieties and fears
Anxiety and fear are the two most common human emotions that lead to jealousy. So to deal with a jealous partner, the first thing you must do is talk to him/her that the reasons for his/her anxieties and fears with the relationship and you.
The reason can be anything from she’s putting up weight which makes her thinks that you don’t love him anymore to your past casual relationship which you ended years ago, reasons can be very weird. But most importantly when your partner decides to confess, instead of attacking him/her, show your empathy and try to solve the issue.
- Never develop defensive behavior
If you are being accused by your partner for something which you actually haven’t done, don’t start an argument about it. The more get defensive, the chances are that your partner will misinterpret the reaction and think that you are defensive because you want to hide something. Instead, you should reassure your partner that you haven’t done what he/she accused you of doing and settle the fear that your partner has developed.
- Show all your affection
It’s time for you to show all your affection towards your partner. No matter how rude he/she behaves, don’t deny showing your partner how much he/she means to you. This would definitely help your partner to psychologically heal faster .
- Create a boundary
This is a very sensible way of handling a relationship. Discuss with your partner about the likes and dislikes of each other and set boundaries accordingly so that in the long run things don’t get ugly and hence there are no chances for the rise of jealousy.
- Be responsive and available to your partner
Yes, it is your partner’s problem and he/she is the one to fix it. But instead of avoiding the issue be responsive about it. When your partner needs you the most, if you make yourself available for any help then the habits of jealousy often gets eroded. This also would help to redevelop the trust issues in the relationship.
- Be patient to earn your back partner’s trust
This issue can’t get fixed over a day. But if you be patient and show your partner that you are always with him/her, by supporting through problems, discussing fears, celebrating small but important victories, and take it one day at a time, things will definitely change.
- Make sure there isn’t a communication gap
Communication gap is the poison that spoils everything. The root of all fears, anxieties and doubts are because of communication gap. To develop healthy communication and make time for your partner. There won’t be any scope for jealousy to be created.
A jealous partner, in the long run, becomes intrusive and irritating. This is enough to spoil the love that you have for your partner and ultimately affect your relationship in a negative way. So try to sort out the issue and if all the damage-control measures fail, then it’s better to move out of the relationship.