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How Extravagant Weddings Has Denied Daughters In Punjab

The new wedding trend has now caused parents-to-be to engage in the dreadful act of sex-selective abortions as the last resort.

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  • There has been a steep decline of girl children in zero to six age-groups – down from 901 in 1961 to 846 per 1,000 boys in 2011.
  • Though dowries have long been outlawed they are now passed off as gifts from the bride’s parents and relatives.
  • Having to send them with high-priced weddings and dowry, daughters have become a liability whereas sons would inherit the land and provide some income to the family.

Glamorized by movies, the media and the wealthy diaspora overseas, weddings have become a status symbol. The new trend of weddings has made it a very costly affair. While the rich enjoys such extravaganza, some can only dream of a wedding.

A large part of Punjab remains agricultural. To pass down their lands to the coming generations, sons are preferred over daughters.

Green Revolution had an adverse impact on Punjab which forced farmers to cultivate crops that required large quantities of water. But high costs of fertilisers and acute shortage of groundwater and equipment to drill the water out landed farmers in a vicious cycle of debts.Their financial condition further pushed the patriarchal society into sex-selective abortion.

According to the dailyo article, there has been a steep decline of girl children in zero to six age-groups – down from 901 in 1961 to 846 per 1,000 boys in 2011. Women make up 47.23 per cent of Punjab’s total population, compared to 48.5 per cent at the national level. The state’s female to male sex ratio of 895 per 1,000 in 2011 is far lower than the national average of 943 in 2011.

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A farmer who is now crippled with debts and on the verge of committing suicide would prefer a son to a daughter. Having to send them with high-priced weddings and dowry, daughters have become a liability whereas sons would inherit the land and provide some income to the family.

He certainly cannot keep with what is now a trend of high-priced weddings. But for something decent as it is expected from the society, the debt-ridden father takes more loans from ruthless private lenders as it is the only option available.

In Punjab, women are largely homemakers and the state’s female workforce participation rate is 13.9 per cent whereas the national average is 25.5 per cent according to the 2011 census data. But the male participation is at 55.2 per cent as compared to 53.3 per cent at the national level.

 

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The Punjabi weddings are known for their lavishness and extravaganza. Expensive diamond jewellery, decorated elephants,  fancy gold-studded invitation cards, glittering wedding attire, imported alcohol,  famous DJs, and grand hotel receptions kind of sums up a wedding. The gifts to the bride include brand new furnished houses, acres of land and of course, cars decked with ribbons and balloons. Though dowries have long been outlawed they are now passed off as gifts from the bride’s parents and relatives.

This trend has now caused parents-to-be  to engage in the dreadful act of sex-selective abortions as the last resort.

-prepared by Ajay Krishna, an intern at NewsGram. Twitter: @ajkrish14

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  • AJ Krish

    In the past, weddings were simple and yet a celebration of happiness . It was never about extravagant parties and costly gifts. People should understand how their trends are affecting the society.

  • Vrushali Mahajan

    When are all these poor minded practices going to come to end? People must understand the value of a daughter!

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This Wedding Season Keep Things Light and Breezy While Playing With Colours

Listing some do's and don'ts, Ali said all the brides-to-be need to remember that design is as important as the quality of stones used.

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From black to golden to blue, the wedding season this year is all about playing with colours. And when it comes to jewellery, pick pieces that enhance your beauty rather than being weighed down by them.

“The upcoming wedding season is going to be full of surprises. The colours that will rule the wedding season are off-pastels. Colours like grey, powder blues, dull rose, even something like a dusty peach will be seen trending and these colours will be seen embellished with softer metallic embroidery,” Vogue India’s fashion director Anaita Shroff Adajania told IANS.

Even if you opt for a ‘big fat Indian wedding’, you can skip the “heavy lehengas”.

“It is all about a bride opting for lighter ensembles where she’s free to dance, twirl and hang out with her friends,” added Adajania, who became part of the sixth edition of The Vogue Wedding Show (VWS).

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Held in partnership with Taj Hotels Palaces Resorts Safaris, the three-day wedding exhibition, held here earlier this month, had ace designers like Anita Dongre, Manish Malhotra, Sabyasachi Mukherjee, Tarun Tahiliani, Gaurav Gupta and Rahul Mishra available for personal consultations. It also included a workshop on styling, where Adajania shared contemporary style tips and advice for brides and grooms.

Pointing out the trends, Adajania said: “Black and gold is a powerful combination for a bride who wants to make a very strong statement, like a soft new gothic look.

“Powder blue has emerged as a very big colour this wedding season, sometimes even venturing into a pale dove grey. Ivory or white embroidery on these shades work beautifully to create a very dream-like look for the bride.”

The blouse will be the ‘hero’ this wedding season.

“Fringing, blouses with organza sleeves, sheer invisible shoulders are some of the styles to watch out for. So, I think that the blouse will be doing a lot of the talking while the lehenga remains light, almost feathery and designed with layers of tulle,” she said.

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It is all about a bride opting for lighter ensembles. Flickr

Adajania says brides are no longer looking at making their jewellery stand out.

“They are looking at wearing just one colour from head to toe. So, if the bride is wearing green then her jewellery is also green. It’s not about contrasting, like a red with emeralds, but focussing on one colour this wedding season,” she said.

Designer Farah Khan Ali advise brides to choose jewellery that will stand the test of time.

“Something which you create with your jewellery designer, and which can become a family heirloom that you will hand down to the next generation. Either go for absolutely unusual pieces or total classics. There is no middle ground,” Ali said.

In terms of trends, she said: “I believe that coloured jewellery will be big this season and will make you feel brighter and make more of a statement. Hair accessories are also going to be very popular, as well as versions of the haathphool and baju bandh.”

She wants haathphool to be back in vogue.

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Coloured jewellery will be big this season and will make you feel brighter, Flickr

“You can pair this with a trendy piece of jewellery with a contemporary silhouette or a traditional one, as per your desire. This piece of jewellery is one traditional trend that can be reinvented time and again not only as a statement piece from your bridal essentials but also later as your highlight piece with a simple dress,” said the designer.

Listing some do’s and don’ts, Ali said all the brides-to-be need to remember that design is as important as the quality of stones used.

“Never compromise on either.”

“Definitely don’t stick to only diamond or only coloured stones. Embrace variety. Also, don’t be afraid to experiment. Collect a variety of pieces. Don’t stick to only diamond or only colours. Change is good.”

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Keep jewellery in a cool, dry place to protect it.

“Pearls must be saved from soap water or perfumes. Jewellery should not be bent, it should be placed flat on a soft fabric to avoid scratches.” (IANS)