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How Extravagant Weddings Has Denied Daughters In Punjab

The new wedding trend has now caused parents-to-be to engage in the dreadful act of sex-selective abortions as the last resort.

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  • There has been a steep decline of girl children in zero to six age-groups – down from 901 in 1961 to 846 per 1,000 boys in 2011.
  • Though dowries have long been outlawed they are now passed off as gifts from the bride’s parents and relatives.
  • Having to send them with high-priced weddings and dowry, daughters have become a liability whereas sons would inherit the land and provide some income to the family.

Glamorized by movies, the media and the wealthy diaspora overseas, weddings have become a status symbol. The new trend of weddings has made it a very costly affair. While the rich enjoys such extravaganza, some can only dream of a wedding.

A large part of Punjab remains agricultural. To pass down their lands to the coming generations, sons are preferred over daughters.

Green Revolution had an adverse impact on Punjab which forced farmers to cultivate crops that required large quantities of water. But high costs of fertilisers and acute shortage of groundwater and equipment to drill the water out landed farmers in a vicious cycle of debts.Their financial condition further pushed the patriarchal society into sex-selective abortion.

According to the dailyo article, there has been a steep decline of girl children in zero to six age-groups – down from 901 in 1961 to 846 per 1,000 boys in 2011. Women make up 47.23 per cent of Punjab’s total population, compared to 48.5 per cent at the national level. The state’s female to male sex ratio of 895 per 1,000 in 2011 is far lower than the national average of 943 in 2011.

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A farmer who is now crippled with debts and on the verge of committing suicide would prefer a son to a daughter. Having to send them with high-priced weddings and dowry, daughters have become a liability whereas sons would inherit the land and provide some income to the family.

He certainly cannot keep with what is now a trend of high-priced weddings. But for something decent as it is expected from the society, the debt-ridden father takes more loans from ruthless private lenders as it is the only option available.

In Punjab, women are largely homemakers and the state’s female workforce participation rate is 13.9 per cent whereas the national average is 25.5 per cent according to the 2011 census data. But the male participation is at 55.2 per cent as compared to 53.3 per cent at the national level.

 

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The Punjabi weddings are known for their lavishness and extravaganza. Expensive diamond jewellery, decorated elephants,  fancy gold-studded invitation cards, glittering wedding attire, imported alcohol,  famous DJs, and grand hotel receptions kind of sums up a wedding. The gifts to the bride include brand new furnished houses, acres of land and of course, cars decked with ribbons and balloons. Though dowries have long been outlawed they are now passed off as gifts from the bride’s parents and relatives.

This trend has now caused parents-to-be  to engage in the dreadful act of sex-selective abortions as the last resort.

-prepared by Ajay Krishna, an intern at NewsGram. Twitter: @ajkrish14

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  • AJ Krish

    In the past, weddings were simple and yet a celebration of happiness . It was never about extravagant parties and costly gifts. People should understand how their trends are affecting the society.

  • Vrushali Mahajan

    When are all these poor minded practices going to come to end? People must understand the value of a daughter!

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The COVID-19 Impact Might Not Be All Bad For Indian Weddings

COVID-19 does not necessarily mean that all businesses associated with weddings are going to suffer

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Not all is gloom and doom for the Indian wedding scenario. Pixabay

BY SIDDHI JAIN                                                                                                            When it comes to Indian weddings, there’s a lot one can say about the wastage, over-the-top expense and outrageously grand exhibits that people indulge in. With wedding guestlists capped at 50 people, venues and banquet halls in lockdown, and a financial crunch for a majority of the population – the Indian wedding has no option but to downsize, and that may not be a bad thing.

While weddings may be smaller, the grandeur of the Indian wedding will far from pale. The rise of intimate, micro-weddings (though none the less lavish) has the wedding industry believe the ‘big fat Indian wedding’ might have a long wait before it makes an appearance.

Technology is allowing couples to get married and have their family and friends attend their ceremonies over Zoom calls. Over 500 people can attend a celebration in this manner even if they are miles away. Many couples have embraced the concept of intimate weddings after the sudden outbreak of COVID-19.

According to a The Knot Worldwide survey, around 80 percent of Indian couples who were planning to get married between April to August 2020, have chosen to postpone their weddings to the latter half of the year, over cancellations.

What would change?

“Taking safety into consideration, international pre-wedding shoots and destination weddings might take a back-seat depending on how the global scenario changes in the coming months. At present, couples are discussing weddings within their home city. Some are also planning on making road trips to places near their home city,” Ankur Sarawagi, India Country Head, The Knot Worldwide told IANSlife.

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The grandeur of Indian weddings will be pale post lockdown. Pixabay

“75 percent of couples do not plan on reducing their guest list. They will design and segregate their guest lists for separate wedding celebrations. Attention to details also plays a major role in big budgeted marriages. In case there is a dip in the number of guests, we can expect more tailored experiences like customised wedding seating ideas, wedding favours,” he added.

According to a Weddingz. in survey, a majority said that in the next 2-3 months, they would prefer intimate weddings with a smaller guest list.

Post-COVID era will force families and the bride and groom to re-evaluate their plans and priorities. Personalised and more meaningful guest experiences will take precedence. Personalised menus, change in traditional seating arrangement, and decor will all be part of the collective guest experience at any post-pandemic wedding. According to our recent customer survey, most respondents said that they would prefer in-house catering to ensure high-quality standards in procurement and food preparation, notes Sandeep Lodha, CEO, OYO’s Weddingz. in.

“Domestic destinations for weddings will be the norm with limited access or restrictions to international travel in the foreseeable future. Destinations that can be reached by road will be preferred to guarantee the safety and social distancing in a post-pandemic era. Unarguably the spend on destination weddings will be limited owing to limited international options.”

“Weddings will see a definitive shift to the virtual world. Couples and families will look for photographers and videographers that are well-equipped to live-stream events for their friends and family from across the globe. Families will be willing to pay a premium for good service and technology here,” Lodha told IANSlife.

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Many couples have embraced the concept of intimate weddings after the sudden outbreak of COVID-19. Pixabay

Not all gloom and doom

The COVID-19 “does not necessarily mean that all businesses associated with weddings are going to suffer” and some businesses may boom. With reduced number of guests, the expenditure on banquet halls, fancy decors, large scale food catering, extensive honeymoon travels will go down, but jewellery might not be all that badly hit, Rohan Sharma, Managing Director of RK Jewellers, South Extension-2 told IANSlife.

“Jewellery is an asset that one builds at their wedding and families would now probably spend more on jewellery than anything else. During the lockdown, we have experienced an increase in inquiries for gold jewellery. People have seen that in the time of need, gold is the only stable asset,” Sharma said.

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As and when things return to normalcy, weddings will slowly but surely become the quintessential elaborate gathering as always, planners are certain. Couples will focus on venue sanitization, frequent disinfection of common facilities and hygiene while serving guests, and prefer open, larger venues to ensure social distancing. (IANS)

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Punjab Exempts Women Cops With Kids Below 5 From Frontline Duties

The decision has been approved by Chief Minister Amarinder Singh

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Punjab has exempted women cops with kids under five from Covid duties. Wikimedia Commons

Punjab Director General of Police (DGP) Dinkar Gupta on Tuesday barred all police personnel with medical issues, as well as women cops with children under five from the frontline duty in a bid to protect them from undue exposure to the risk of Covid-19.

The decision has been approved by Chief Minister Amarinder Singh, who has asked the DGP to ensure all protective and welfare measures for the corona warriors.

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Measures are taken to save women officers from exposure to coronavirus. Wikimedia Commons

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The DGP said there had been concerns expressed on this count during several calls received on the newly launched tele-counselling facility for anxious police corona warriors and their families.

At present, there are over 48,000 police personnel engaged in curfew enforcement and relief measures across the state and the tele-counselling facility was launched on April 20 to equip police officers and their families with additional information and skills to cope with the psychological aspects of the Covid-19 duties, including a high degree of risk of contracting infection. (IANS)

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Bride in Waiting? Don’t Let that Excitement Die Down, Here’s How

To the brides out there use the lockdown period to your advantage

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No need to get disappointed, here's how you can keep up the excitement. Pixabay

As the coronavirus pandemic unfolds, Indian weddings are chartering unknown territories. Brides or Grooms are either postponing or cancelling their big day or finding creative ways to get married while ensuring social distancing and other restrictions.

However, it is possible to keep the excitement of the big day going for all Brides-to-be? One of India’s only one-stop-platforms for everything weddings shows brides in waiting how you can still have fun and use the lockdown period to your advantage.

Research Research!

With plenty of time on your hands, look for what you want. The silver lining is, you now have bonus time to perfect and include everything in your wedding that you might have missed out earlier. Look for options and explore different ideas for your decor, makeup, sangeet, and more!

Wedding Invites

It is the first introduction to your wedding and plays a big role in setting the vibe. Keep up with the trend and e- personalise your wedding invites. DIY, experiment with thematic motifs, monograms, quote, or no quote. Add elements of real-life in your invitation to give it a special look.

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Try personalizing your wedding invitations. Pixabay

Plan a bridal shower

There is nothing better than just packing your bags and taking off to an exotic location, but unfortunately that’s not possible with the current scenario. Keep up the excitement, by planning a budget-friendly bridal shower with your bridesmaids, and up the fun quotient of your party with a quirky theme and decor. Get all the girls together and go old school- organize a pajama party with silly games and laughter.

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Call up your have the fun , party with a quirky theme and decor. Pixabay

Consult a dietician/trainer to stay fit

Subscribe to fitness platforms, follow dieticians and trainers for tips and tricks to stay fit during the lockdown. Practice yoga and eat well for a jaw-dropping shine on your big day.

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Practice makes a bride perfect

Planning a solo dance or a piano performance for Mr. Right? It’s the right time to work on your skills and make it perfect. Practice your speech and learn those dance moves, everything is going to be worthwhile.

Also, keep in mind all of these shouldn’t be considered tasks to check off your list, but fun activities that will bring you one step closer to your special day! (IANS)