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Say ‘No’ To Abuse: Here are 4 Ways to Exit a Toxic Relationship!

Learn ways to exit an abusive relationship safely

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  • One should accept one’s presence in an abusive relationship
  • Make arrangements to flee and keep your family safe
  • Reach out organizations created for this purpose

July 19, 2017: People comfort themselves by giving various reasons to justify staying in an abusive relationship but one of the common excuses is fear. Fear of an emotional breakdown, fear of physical violence, fear of not being able to leave the relationship safely,  fear of instability, or fear of being unable to survive on our own. However, one can easily overcome such fears. There exist ways to safely exit a toxic relationship and putting a red light on domestic violence. The following tips can help one overcome the trauma that one has been going through.

ACKNOWLEDGE THE EXISTENCE OF ABUSE

Firstly, one needs to acknowledge the fact that one is experiencing abuse in their relationship. There can be different types of abuse, for instance, sexual, physical, mental, financial, or a combination. It is essential for the victim to accept that they are not being treated properly as it can enable them with the power to exit even if the situation makes them feel ashamed.

REACH OUT FOR HELP

It is not necessary for everyone to have their family or friends besides them or they may not be the best resource but one is never alone. There are various organizations designed especially to help those suffering abuse in relationships.

There exist places owned by these organizations which provide emergency shelters to you and your family. They provide individual therapy, group therapy, providing food and clothing and help with the legal matter.

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CREATE AN EXIT STRATEGY

Preparing a strategy can help you have everything in place so that you can leave for your own good. Some of the guidelines are as follows:

  • Speak to someone trustworthy and let them know your plan. For example, making a code word for text if you are need help immediately
  •  Documenting the abuse can be really helpful. Preserve any proof of physical abuse (like photos), a book of all incidences noting carefully events, dates, and threats), or a record of a doctor’s visit
  •  Plans should be shared with children and they should be provided with reassurance that they should keep themselves safe and not try and protect you

You must be prepared if you plan to leave sooner than expected. You must make a plan immediately for such a situation-

  •  Know the number of local battered shelter for women in your area
  • Park your car in the driveway, keeping it fueled. The driver’s door must be unlocked and other doors locked
  • Keep money aside with family or trusted friends
  •  Pack a bag containing IDs, extra keys, birth certificates, social security cards, marriage license, credit cards, clothes, medications, shoes, banking information — anything which is significant to you and stores them at a friend or neighbor’s house
  •  Have essential phone numbers noted somewhere except your phone
  •  If you have time, also take titles, Citizenship documents, medical records, deeds, property information, insurance information, children’s immunization and school records, and welfare identification

STAYING SAFE AFTER YOU LEAVE

The need to be aware of your surroundings will not stop after you have left. You will want to make sure to check off these items once you have left so that you can be safe for a long time.

If the offender is preparing to leave and you receive a restraining order:

  •  Alter your phone number and locks
  •  Change your hours of work and the route taken to go to work
  •  Alter the route to drop children to school
  •  Keep a restraining order copy with you always
  • Inform employers, neighbors, and friends that you have an effective restraining order
  •  Give its copies to friends, family, employees, neighbors, school authorities along with offender’s picture
  • For enforcing the order, contact law enforcement

If you are leaving the relationship:

  •  Think about either using the address of a friend or renting a post office box for any of your mails. Be careful while giving your new phone number and address to someone
  •  Keep the school authorities updated about the situation
  • Reschedule appointments
  • Use different social spots and stores
  • Keep neighbors alerted, and request them to reach out to the police if they sense danger
  •  Make arrangement for security systems
  •  Inform people who take care of your children and who can pick up your children. Make them understand your condition and hand them with a restraining order copy
  •  For caller ID, contact telephone company

-prepared by Harsimran Kaur of NewsGram. Twitter @Hkaur1025

 

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A Family In Delhi Commits Suicide To Thank God: Police Reports

Every step taken on the night the family died was written almost a week back.

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A Family In Delhi Commits Suicide To Thank God: Police Reports. VOA

The death mystery of Bhatia family in Delhi is getting shocking as the investigation reports are coming out. According to latest report, Delhi Police Crime Branch rules out the possibility of murder in the mysterious case. The initial investigation has shown possibility of a spiritual angel, and now it seems like it is confirmed. According to Times Now sources, the family was supposed to perform some other pooja however, they died while performing it.

As per the latest reports, every step taken on the night the family died was written almost a week back. Also, the ‘pooja’ began the same day when dairy-entry was made. The aim of the ‘pooja’ was to thank god for his blessings bestowed upon the Bhatia family.

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The sources in the police team probing the deaths told Times Now that younger son of Narayani Devi, Lalit was performing these poojas for the betterment of the family since eleven years. He started the rituals after his father’s death. During these years, the man managed to convince the Bhatia family that because of their father’s soul the family was becoming financially strong. After the death of their father, family’s business expanded. Initially, they had one shop but ‘because of the positive soul of their father’ they managed to own three more shops.

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However, CCTV footage gained by police shows a woman of the family bringing in the five stools used in the mass hangings – exactly at 10 pm. This followed a script in one of the diaries found in the house after the deaths. The footage shows that the family voluntarily took steps for mass suicide. (IANS)