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Aug 12, 2017: Charming a girl has never been easy and is only getting tougher with the passage of time. They say “love is just a game” but there is more to it which meets the eye. So to begin with let’s peep into the guide for men that will lead them straight to a woman’s heart. Many men failed because they had no idea how to win a girls heart.
Here are 15 laws from the guide that every man can follow:
LAW 1: “Confidence is the key”
You must be confident enough while approaching a girl. Summon up your nerves if you don’t have the courage to look into her eye. Girls like confidence men as much as they like the color red. Don’t be a spoilsport around a girl, be a stout-hearted man and win her heart.
Your confidence will count:
- The way you walk
- Talking style (generous)
- Posture (upright)
- Eye contacts
- Always dress your best if you want a girl to notice you for days to come, girl do not like unpleasant men
Work on the aforementioned things to give a boost to your confidence.
LAW 2: “Compliment her whenever possible”
Always compliment a girl in a special way and don’t forget to use superlatives (the best, the most, so far, etc). They don’t want to know whether they are beautiful or not. All they want to know is that they stand best in the masses in your eyes.
How to compliment a girl?
- Speak truth, a fake compliment does nothing but diminish your value
- Don’t overdo it
- Call her ‘beautiful’ instead of ‘hot’, use pleasant adjectives
- Don’t be redundant and use same compliments again and again
- Speak about her positive aura and how her presence brightens your day
- Tell her that she resembles with your mother or sister
- Don’t use compliment to escape a troublesome situation, she might not be able to trust you next time when you do that to her
LAW 3: “Timing is important”
You can’t approach a girl in the midway of the street as she might take gets offended. Look for the right time and right situation. An ideal situation would be when you see her happy and smiling. Everything should be timely placed and accorded.
LAW 4: “Do not haste”
You can’t get hold of a girl in the spur of a moment, for they require time and a level of understanding. Do not just go and explode in front of her with all the feeling you have. Start with friendship because it lasts longer.
LAW 5: “Make her laugh”
Marilyn Monroe, a famous actress from 80s said “If you can make a girl laugh you can make her do anything” which is the absolute truth. Girls just love the company of a man who can make them laugh.
How to make a girl laugh?
- Make great use of your body language
- Tease her and be playful with her
- Avoid sarcasm to the best, it’s a turn-off
- Try for some fun activities together
- Act stupidly cute sometimes
- Send her funny pictures and text
- Be natural, it goes a long way
LAW 6: “Listen to her”
Listen to her for long hours as it will help you in knowing her better and better. She would cry, howl, throw a wobbly, traumatize you but your patience should remain firm because all you need patience when it comes to a girl. Start practicing to be a good listener because girls love to talk as much as they want. You will learn about her troubles, worries, interest that will help you in knowing her better.
LAW 7: “Get to know her”
You should begin to know her, for she possesses deep secrets. They say there are 365 characters of a woman and for that reason, you can never understand her, but to enlighten you furthermore every trait tells a story and within every story lies a hidden past. Your role should begin from understanding her past to knowing her present life. When you will know her and accept her for all that she is; she will be ready to be please you, surrender herself to you and will be ready to accept you with all her heart.
LAW 8: “Dedication”
Girls love dedicated men!! You can’t win over her if she sees you loitering around and hitting on each and every girl you come across with. She will appreciate if she is the only one you look at and feel for. You can’t sail in two boats at the same time. She wants to know if you are really worth her time. So prove it to her.
How do you show your dedication and passion towards her?
- Build long term plans together
- Do not fear to make commitments
- Do not menace to leave her
- Be affectionate towards her
- Do not hold your feelings and declare then when you feel the time is right
LAW 9: “Strive for perfection”
Always do things with perfection, it can’t be asserted whether girls love perfection or not but for your own gratification you must be the best.
LAW 10: “Comfort her”
Your lover can only spread its wings if you give them the comfort they want. Always and always try to comfort your partner in whichever way possible.
LAW 11: “Keep luscious desires away”
Do not be a greedy luscious man when it comes to your partner. Men need to realize that she is a sensitive character and might not like your command. Just go with the flow.
LAW 12: “Respect wins her heart”
If you aren’t thankful for what you have then you don’t deserve it for the long run. Respect the lady you are with right now because respect given is respect taken. Remember if you can’t respect the woman next to you there is nothing you can achieve.
LAW 13: “Trust”
Trust is the foundation of any relation and relationship do not flourish if there is a lack of trust. Trust is hard earned and if you lose her trust chances are you might never get it back. If you trust her you give her the notion of a healthy relationship. Do good deeds and receive good deeds.
LAW 14: “No constraints”
Do not put any constraints on her because the more constraints you put the more dissatisfied she will be. If you keep the love free, it will never leave your space. Love doesn’t come with a rulebook that either of the two has to agree on. Voice over issues relevant issues rather than hovering on trivial ones.
LAW 15: “Protect her”
She needs protection from the evil minds that are keeping an eye on her; it is you who will be her support system in entire journey of relationship. And it should be your duty to see through her safety.
"In India, to be born as a man is a crime, to question a woman is an atrocious crime, and this all because of those women who keep suppressing men in the name of feminism."
Feminism, a worldwide movement that started to establish, define and defend equal rights for women in all sections- economically, politically, and socially. India, being a patriarchal society gives a gender advantage to the men in the society thus, Indian feminists sought to fight against the culture-specific issue for women in India. Feminism itself is nothing but a simple movement that pursues equal rights for women (including transwomen) and against misogyny both external and internal. It states nowhere that women should get more wages than men, that women deserve more respect than men, that's pseudo-feminism.
Pseudo feminists state that women deserve more respect and rights, any other gender deserves no respect. They feel that women should be the ones ruling the world and at higher positions. When feminism takes a turn for extremities it becomes pseudo-feminism and people who label themselves as feminists will bash anyone who speaks against even the wrongdoings of a woman. They'll bash women who're wife and sisters for not speaking up and support any women criticizing political leaders even if it's completely irrational. This is where hypocrisy and pseudo-feminism merge with each other.
They take advantage of the rights given to women to protect themselves to threaten other genders. The rights given to women are supposed to make them feel reassured that they can reach out to the judiciary if their rights are being hampered not to threaten to make the victim sound like the culprit.
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Indian Feminist Movement has made significant progress however, even in the modern world women are still unsafe and are discriminated against when it comes to getting a job, land ownership, and access to education. While filling the official papers it is still asked "Wife of /Daughter of:….."
People in India still continue the practice of sex-selective abortion, abandoning the girl child, not letting girl child study instead they should learn household chores, they are seen as a burden to the family. Such injustices make feminism such an important movement, gender equality is worth fighting for to create a safe environment for women. Feminists over the years have been criticized for focusing on the rights of privileged women and not giving equal representation to poorer and lower caste women, which has led to separate caste-specific feminist organizations and movements.
Some notable milestones in the Feminist Movement
- Raja Ram Mohan Roy campaigned against Sati Pratha (practice in which a widow sacrificed herself by sitting atop her deceased husband's funeral pyre) and child marriage
- Savitribai Phule started the first school for girls at Bhidewada in Pune city in 1848.
- In 1972, SEWA, the biggest trade union for women was set up by Ela Bhatt for women working in the informal sector.
- The Chipko Movement was launched and led by women in 1973.
- #MeToo movement against sexual harassment and abuse was started in 2006 and revived in the year 2015.
People in India still continue the practice of sex-selective abortion, abandoning the girl child, not letting girl child study instead they should learn household chores, they are seen as a burden to the family.Unsplash
Feminism is often misunderstood as pseudo-feminism and hence, becomes the target for public hatred and is accused of wronging other genders under the façade of feminism. It is misunderstood by Indians as female domination instead of gender equality. Indian society and Indian feminists believe that only men are perpetrators of a heinous crime like rape and they refuse to even recognize the men who say they were raped and it's the toxic masculinity in the society that believes how can a woman rape a man? Reality is different from what we believe, women can be the perpetrator too, women threaten to file a case of domestic violence, or sexual assault against innocent people just to fulfill their ego.
Thankfully feminism and pseudo feminism are two separate concepts and feminism is just about equality and not judgment. Indian society and feminists actually need to understand the difference between the two and stop tarnishing the Feminist Movement as a whole.
Keywords: Feminism, World, India, Pseudo-Feminism, Gender
Kerala is a land of many good things. It has an abundance of nature, culture, art, and food. It is also a place of legend and myth, and is known for its popular folklore, the legend of Yakshi. This is not a popular tale outside the state, but it is common knowledge for travellers, especially those who fare through forests at night.
The legend of the yakshi is believed to be India's equivalent of the Romanian Dracula, except of course, the Yakshi is a female. Many Malayalis believe that the Yakshi wears a white saree and had long hair. She has a particular fragrance, which is believed to be the fragrance of the Indian devil-tree flowers. She seduces travellers with her beauty, and kills them brutally.
Yakshi idol in Veroor, Sri Dharamashastha temple Image source: wikimedia commons
The Yakshi is believed to live in a palm tree which can appear like a palace. Victims are taken here before they are killed. Travellers on highways are often advised not to stop near heavily forested areas, or speak to anyone who closely resembles a Yakshi. Some believe she can change form, while other hold to the belief that she doesn't. after securing her victim, the only trace left behind is body parts like hair, nails, and teeth.
They say, like other ghosts, a Yakshi's feet will not touch the ground. This is something to look out for. Mysterious deaths have been reported across the rural areas in Kerala, and all these have been attributed to the legend.
Keywords: Legends, Yakshi, Urban legend, Ghost, Kerala, Myth, Vampire
The LGBTQ+ acronym stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, and others. In India LGBTQ+ community also include a specific social group, part religious cult, and part caste: the Hijras. They are culturally defined either as "neither men nor women" or as men who become women by adopting women's dress and behavior. Section 377 of the India Penal code that criminalized all sexual acts "against the order of nature" i.e. engaging in oral sex or anal sex along with other homosexual activities were against the law, ripping homosexual people off of their basic human rights. Thus, the Indian Supreme Court ruled a portion of Section 377 unconstitutional on 6th September 2018.
But the question is, "was India always against homosexuality"? Has the concept of homosexuality being unnatural existed forever? No, in Indian history and Hinduism homosexuality has never been an offense, in fact in several instances it has been depicted how people embraced their identity, be it sexual identity or gender identity. Section 377 was brought to India by the British in 1862, while India was colonized. Even after the Independence, it was only in 2018 that the Supreme Court ruled it as irrational and illogical.
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Homosexuality in Ancient India
When Supreme Court decriminalized homosexuality in India, there was an uproar about it being a western ideology and liberalism. But in reality, homosexuality has existed since the time of the Vedas. The Gay and Lesbian Vaishnava Association (GALVA) researched and discovered that it was around 3102 B.C. (during the Vedic Age) that homosexuality or non-normative sexual identity was recognized as "Tritiya Prakriti", or the third nature. Ancient India not only made mentions of homosexuality but accepted it as well.
Hinduism is the most vastly followed religion in India. Hinduism does not explicitly mention homosexuality however it does contain a homosexual theme and characters in its text. There have been various instances in our scriptures and texts that have introduced us to LGBT+ characters such as the androgynous form of Shiva and Parvati Ardhanariswara meaning "the half-female lord". One of the most popular and ancient texts on sexuality, eroticism, and emotional fulfillment of life, "Kamasutra" has a complete chapter dedicated to homosexuality and homosexual sex. Numerous Hindu sculptures and temples have statues depicting homosexual activities.
Numerous Hindu sculptures and temples have statues depicting homosexual activities. Facebook
Our Mughals were Queer
Mughals are often seen under the light of cruelty, rigid ethics, nobility, and polygamy. Simultaneously, Mughals are also the ones credited for the emergence of Sufism, abolished jizya tax, love beyond religion, classes, and gender.
In the Baburnama written in memoirs of our very first Mughal ruler Muhammad Babur, several instances documented Babur's infatuation and affection towards a teenage boy named Baburi. We also have multiple Persian couplets as evidence of Babur's affection for Baburi. Mughals engaged in homosexuality and pederasty, and they believed that later was a form of "pure love".
But as time passed homosexuality was suppressed more and more though people practiced it in secret if revealed they were punished. According to the Fatwa-e-Alamgiri Sharia-based text of the Mughal Empire, there is a common set of punishments for homosexuality, which could include 50 lashes for a slave, 100 for a free infidel, or death by stoning for a Muslim.
British Raj and Independence of India
In 1862, Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code that criminalized homosexual sex came into force. Even after Independence in 1947, the section remained a part of the Indian Constitution. There were protests all over the country to give people of the LGBT+ community basic human rights but it was not until 2018 that The Supreme Court of India ruled the portion of Section 377 has unconstitutional and struck it off. One judge said the landmark decision would "pave the way for a better future.". With Section 377 gone are LGBT+ people allowed to fall in love freely? No, people are still afraid to love because of the stigma in our society when it comes to homosexuality; they are seen as lesser humans.
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Although the Supreme Court has decriminalized homosexual activities, same-sex marriage remains illegal in the country. Homophobia is still prevalent in India, and homosexual children would rather commit suicide than come out to society with their true identity, that's how harsh of a world we live in. Lacking support from family, society, or police, many gay rape victims do not report the crimes. In 1977, writer and Indian mathematician Shakuntla Devi published "The World of Homosexuals". It was the first study in the Indian context; the book contains interviews with homosexual men set in the years of Emergency. She wrote, "rather than pretending that homosexuals don't exist it is time we face the facts squarely in the eye and find room for homosexual people." We've had small victories in our fight against homophobia and getting LGBT+ community the rights they deserve as humans, but we still have a long and exhausting fight ahead of us.