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Remember that emotions are neither masculine, nor feminine, nor right, nor wrong, they simply exist.

By Devina Kaur

Is there a certain time period to wait to heal from losing a loved one? This is a difficult question to answer, but very important to ask. I personally get asked this question a lot, and my response is always the same: "It takes as long as it takes." Some people want to know exactly how long their recovery period will be so they can know when they've "gotten over" their loss.What is not okay to feel is any form of regret. Regret for all the things that you could not give to that person. Regret that you didn't even get to say goodbye. Regret that life did not turn out the way it was supposed to. All of these regrets can put you in a slumber that you will not be able to escape, so do not regret a thing! Every day we hear about a new death in the news, someone who was just starting out in their life, or someone who was on the brink of dying from a terminal illness. These stories strike our hearts and make us feel something inside. We remember how it felt to lose a loved one and we wonder if the family affected feels the same way that we did. If you're reading this, then you might be having some difficulty coping with the loss of your loved one and are desperately seeking the journey to healing.

Here are 3 tips that can help you through it:

Surrender to the experience and unveil
Surrender to the experience of your loss. Don't try to change it. Surrender to it being messy, lost, or incomplete. Surrender to the fact that life does go on, though not in the same way. Surrender to not being okay. In truth, no one can ever really "handle" a loss and often it affects you deeply, but what I wish more people knew was that our grief is more than okay, it's important. We all carry a story within us and sometimes those stories are heavy and painful. Your grief is a story that tells you more about the experiences of your life. Don't be embarrassed of it, don't run from it and don't let anyone tell you that you're weak for feeling it. It's okay to feel your feelings.


black and red floral Love Yourself Image I strongly believe that there is always someone out there who can relate to what you are going through. | Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash


Bring all your experience, pain and knowledge into your body

This activity works best when you are in the presence of something beautiful, moving or inspiring. It may be watching the sunset or listening to a song or seeing a person or a candle or anything that evokes emotion for you. Close your eyes and bring your attention within yourself, down to your heart, where you can feel the feelings beneath the feelings. Get cozy with what's there. Remember that emotions are neither masculine, nor feminine, nor right, nor wrong, they simply exist.

woman looking at flying birds Remember that emotions are neither masculine, nor feminine, nor right, nor wrong, they simply exist. | Photo by 邓 子彦 on Unsplash


Acknowledge what you're feeling
Acknowledging what you're feeling is not acknowledging that you're weak or broken; it's about accepting the reality of your situation. Take time to practice self-care by getting enough sleep, eating healthy, and exercising. If it is possible, go for walks in nature because it can help you feel relaxed and re-energized. You can also meditate to help calm your thoughts which will ultimately help you to feel more relaxed. Share your story with someone who understands and get it off your own shoulders. I strongly believe that there is always someone out there who can relate to what you are going through.

silhouette of man and woman under yellow sky The loss of a loved one feels like losing a piece of your heart forever. | Photo by Eric Ward on Unsplash


The loss of a loved one feels like losing a piece of your heart forever. It's an absolute tragedy and it's something that will affect everyone differently. One of the best ways to get through the process of healing after a loss is to surround yourself with people who have experienced similar situations. Never be afraid to seek out professional advice when needed.(IANS/MBI)


Keywords: Love, Lose-Someone, breakup, divorce, marriage, Heart, Feelings, Emotions


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