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Sexism is Real and Men Face it too!

While women tend to pay heed to such remarks, sexism directed towards men goes largely unnoticed. Read on to know if you have been making sexist remarks towards your male counterparts

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Sexism is unbridled in the Indian society and (finally) being talked about. Pixabay
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New Delhi, September 9, 2017 : Society has a huge role to play in the person that we become. And sometimes, that may not be the right way to go about it.

More often than not, society forces us to be somebody we are not. A woman belongs in the kitchen, a man is not supposed to cry; who established these ground rules to function in the society?

Sexism is real, and men face it too (surprise!)

“Man up!”

“Don’t be such a girl!”

Men are always expected to display vigor and anger; their insecurities are rarely taken into account and would rather be pushed under a rug that the society largely identifies as ‘masculinity’.

We keep reminding men that they should not wear pink, that they cannot cry, and that they are only supposed to express their emotions in a certain way. We tell them to ‘not be such a girl’, to shake off their fears and ‘man up’ and to always take charge. And this never stops.

But what we are forgetting here is that men have emotions too; even when the society does not allow them to emote explicitly.

These expressions and understanding are so entrenched in daily communiqué that sometimes we fail to realize when we are making a sexist remark.

Yes, sexism is unbridled in the Indian society and (thankfully) being talked about.

While women tend to pay heed to such remarks, sexism directed towards men goes largely unnoticed.

Here are a few subtle hints to how sexism has become a part of everyday life for men,

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According to the National Crime Victimization Survey 2016, 38 % victims of sexual violence were men.

Men are often faced with questions like “why didn’t you fight her?”, and made jokes on how they must have enjoyed it because why wouldn’t anybody enjoy a sexual encounter that essentially has ‘no strong attached’.

People in the 21st century fail to realize the real, societal damage that women who sexually assault men, cause to the society.

 

 

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The society largely looks down upon the men who earn less than their ‘weaker’ counterparts.

The man is supposed to be the ‘provider’ of the family, earning most of the money. For many men, it feels like a hard slap when women earn more money.

Because if they aren’t earning a living for their family, how can they be a “true” man?

 

 

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The society places unnecessary expectations on boys from a young age. Boys can only be ‘strong’, and ‘big’. Why cant they be sensitive and soft?

Sexism places men and women in stereotypical roles- women are ‘naturally’ kind, compassionate and sensitive, while the men are ‘naturally’ more rational, and stronger, physically and mentally.

 

 

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There is no denying that girls are body shamed,;but assuming that they are ‘weak’ and hence not self-sufficient is taking that to the next level.

People say this to boys all the time and must be immediately stopped because it increasingly encourages the mindset that girls are inherently weak.

Even when the tone of such sexist comments is compassionate- sometimes even flattering, they are indicative of a stereo-typically narrow and insulting worldview.

 

 

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Not only is it unnatural to discourage men from undertaking work that they are passionate about, it is also dangerous.

Despite the cliche that art is a universal language, artists are interpreted very differently in terms of their gender. The unease and suspicion that accompany a male artist, irrespective of what art form he practices, are often based out of society’s view of the body and a larger understanding of ‘masculinity’.

 

 

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Suggesting that boys and girls should be held to different behaviors is dowright demeaning, not to ignore dangerous.

The dominant idea about what a ‘real’ man should be include behaviors such as dominance, control, assertiveness, and emotional unresponsiveness. The society continues to think that men ‘do not do work’, but instead they ‘get work done’ by their weaker counterparts-the women.

While circumstances continue to evolve for the better, in the larger society, there still is a special place in the society  for men who get angry- they are looked upon with reverence. No one points out their anger issues, or frowns upon them. It seems like arrogance and aggression are the only two emotions that men can acceptably show; that these are the only emotions that a man today is capable of showing.

We need to understand that men no longer have to ‘man up’. Instead, let them be a little more human


 

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Is Love Jihad A Peril To Indian Society?

Many politicians and public figures have come forward to raise their voice against the menace of Love Jihad.

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Then the angle of Love Jihad in Karnataka is very much a reality. Wikimedia Commons
Then the angle of Love Jihad in Karnataka is very much a reality. Wikimedia Commons

The term, Love Jihad is making rounds from the last couple of few years and has emerged as a hot topic for debate in our society. It is quite prevalent in many of the Indian states. As per the various statements of the Hindu activists, Love Jihad is when a Muslim boy manipulates a Hindu girl to get married by forcing them to convert to Islam. The next thing follows it is, preaching of sermons to the young girls. In such cases, Muslim boys are instructed to lure the Hindu girls with various techniques and gain their trust.

Many politicians and public figures have come forward to raise their voice against the menace of Love Jihad. A few months back, Uttar Pradesh Chief Minister Yogi Adityanath also attested the very fact of Love Jihad in Kerala. The southern states are a major victim of this peril.

Muslim boys are instructed to lure the Hindu girls with various techniques and gain their trust. Pixabay
Muslim boys are instructed to lure the Hindu girls with various techniques and gain their trust. Pixabay

In 2006, Bajrang Dal leaders declared a campaign to save the Hindu girls from the clutches of Muslim boys. Then the angle of Love Jihad in Karnataka was very much a reality. There the situation was such that the members of Vishwa Hindu Parishad started dragging the Hindu girls who used to be found mingled with Muslim boys to the police station. Then the girl was shame by summoning their parents and publishing their names in local newspapers. In some places, Church was very much in apprehension regarding Love Jihad.

Congress and other LEFT parties have claimed it to be a hoax. In one of the speeches, even the former Kerala DGP also highlighted and accepted the very reality of it.

In one of a recent incident, a person named Niraj Gera published an ordeal of a girl, who went through the nightmare of Love Jihad. The plight of the girl was very much spine-chilling as per her story. She was mentally tortured by the Muslim boy and his family. Fortunately, at last, the girl was lucky enough to get out of the merciless clutches of the boy.

There is no doubt that fake news makes the circle in our society but it doesn’t change the very fact of Love Jihad. The thing remains a hoax until it strikes you. People who are encouraging it are not even doing justice to their own faith itself.