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The 5 Signs which Reveal that you are Disconnected from your Spirituality

One needs to connect with his spirituality, not give up on and believe in God to connect with his self and let go of what weighs him down

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Connecting with one's spirituality. Pixabay
  • Purpose, good faith, motivation and drive, help from one’s support system are the major needs to recover oneself and get back on the track of a healthy and happy life
  • The spiritual journey involves building a relationship with God, and understanding how he loves us and guides us

June 27, 2017: There are times when one feels detached and lonely even when spending time with friends and family. One disconnects himself from the people who care about him and his passions which provide him with pleasure; then suffers from negative feelings and sheer frustration. This affects the wellbeing of the person, his relationships, and his ability to function well.

There are periods when in the days of early adulthood, one isolates himself from his surroundings completely. Building one’s thoughts on the foundation of grudges and emotions, one enables himself to be present in all situations physically, but not mentally. One overlooks the bright side of things and drowns himself in depression therefore. Failing to see changes in one’s life, post prayers and faith, provokes a person question faith and even his sanity at times.

Purpose, good faith, motivation and drive, help from one’s support-system are the major needs to recover oneself and get back on the track of a healthy and happy life. One needs to connect with his spirituality, not give up on and believe in God to connect with his self and let go of what weighs him down. Once you can accept and devote your faith to spirituality, life will not put you down anymore!

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Here are the five signs that reveal that you need to connect with your spirituality-

Refusal on Forgiveness

Refusing to forgive and holding a grudge for life, robs one person off his inner peace, gives birth to bitterness, and pushes him farther away from God. People will always hurt us and let us down, but we must always believe that God will carry us through and lead us to better times; which connects us with our spirituality.

Losing Faith on Prayer

Maybe we say claim that we believe and we have faith. At troubled times, we even pray for a change and enlightenment. But when time passes without a change, one begins to lose faith and starts questioning it; he doubts whether God is listening indeed. But the truth is that God listens and he does help- only at the right time, provided we are patient enough to go through the suffering and learning. Praying to the almighty is the act of ‘believing without seeing’, which is the ultimate faith that pays.

Admittance of Mistakes and Assuming Responsibilities

Not admitting one’s mistakes makes life empty. We have been created to support and help one another, and not destroy one another. Nobody is void of flaws. Hence, when we commit a mistake we should admit it, learn from it, ask for forgiveness and move forward.

Passing Judgments

Picking one another’s faults and errs is not God’s way to communicate. Judging people is only a method to sway our attentions and also to postpone admittance of our own mistakes. God wants us to love each other like he loves each of us. That is the way to connect with our spirituality.

Lack of Spiritual Understanding

It is a bit difficult to understand what spirituality conveys and portrays. It is more than just praying to God. It includes believing the best in people, having faith and genuinely wanting the best for others, not being judgmental, accepting other’s flaws and so much more.

The spiritual journey involves building a relationship with God, and understanding how he loves us and guides us.

Connecting with our spirituality is immensely important for our soul. It provides us with joy once we embrace it. Getting in touch with one’s spirituality is the knowledge of having a relationship with the father in heaven, and there cannot be any better knowledge to lead a beautiful life.

– by Antara Kumar of NewsGram. Twitter: @ElaanaC

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From Me to Myself : How Working On These 7 Concepts Can Build Self-Esteem

Successful people radiate self-esteem. But what to do to build confidence in your own self? Read on to know how the author worked on her own beliefs to establish faith in herself

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An increasing number of people believe they are 'not good enough' and fail to realize their true potential because of low self-esteem. Pixabay

– by Soha Kala 

August 21, 2017 : When I was growing up, my parents always told me that I am the ‘smartest kid’ they had ever met. My friends thought I had an appealing face and for my grandparents and their friends, I had the prettiest heart.

I was curious and had questions about the world I was growing in. I had ideas that could have solved problems I encountered in my life. I could hold interesting conversations, and charm people with my compassion.

But I did not live up to my potential. There was always something holding me back.

For the longest period that I can remember, I did not believe that I could do most of the things I wanted to do.

I wanted to learn the ballet but I felt I would not be able to perform with my extra kilos and would be reduced to a laughing stock.

I wanted to be a writer but I felt my expression was too weak and my thoughts far too amateur to share with another person.

I wanted to be in a relationship but I felt I was not good enough to have somebody interested in me.

At one point or the other, we all question ourselves, which is usually followed by self-doubt.

Am I doing enough?

Am I making enough money?

Am I successful?

Am I good looking?

A major part of my job today is spent fiddling with an application called Google Adwords. So, this morning, as I sat with my mind clouded with questions and a new story to write, I decided to begin with a search in the application. I quickly punched in the words self esteem and happy.

I discovered that about 1-10 million people search for the word ‘happy’ every month whereas just over 100K search for the word self-esteem in a month

(Alternatively, I also searched for ‘Beatles band’ and found only over 1,000 people search for them every month)

Everybody has a loving family, a few friends who care, somebody to talk to; we all have classes to attend, and work to do in our respective lives; TV shows to watch and places to go to. Why then are 10 million people still searching for ‘happiness’ on the internet?

The problem in not with us, but inside us. It lies in our belief in our own self.

Low self esteem restricts you from recognizing your potential and living your life to the fullest. Irrespective of how hard you work or how far you push yourself, your efforts fail to be fruitful.

As a teenager, I used to think I was not pretty enough. Not thin enough. Not smart enough. Not fair enough. I used to believe that I was just that; NOT ENOUGH.

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An increasing number of people suffer from a feeling of worthlessness. We need to understand that this is not normal. Pixabay

All of this because I struggled to accept myself; I failed to forgive myself whenever I did something wrong, not realizing how hard I was being on myself. I worked harder and harder but was always one-mistake away from success – the fault was never in my efforts, but in my attitude. Changing my attitude about life and about me played a key role in developing my confidence that was no longer dependent on any worldly sign of success.

In the process of owning up to be the person that I am today, I discovered 7 concepts that I was struggling with. Over the years, I tried to re-examine and re-discover my own self-limiting beliefs and alter the way I interpreted these concepts. Working upon them helped me instill faith in my own self and boost my confidence,

1. MISTAKES

Do you ever get distracted while doing some work by that little voice inside your head telling you you are not good enough? Do you fear beginning something new because you are uncertain of yourself? Do you choose to give up on some activities because you fear you might not do them correctly?

Because I have done that, too.

I have been so unsure of myself in the past, wanting to be so much but terrified to start because I feared making mistakes. It was because of this fear that instead of talking to people and working on myself, I chose to shut myself down completely. I was so afraid of being rejected that I decided to reject opportunities and people first.  That is how I let go of tremendous opportunities to learn new things and meet unique people.

I have now grown to believe that man makes mistakes, and those mistakes in turn make man.

It is a continuous cycle. One can only learn when he knows what he is doing wrong. You can either choose to traumatize yourself over failure, or allow yourself to make mistakes and instead of looking at them as disappointments, embrace them as opportunities to grow.

2. PRETENSION

As a kid, I remember falling off a bicycle because I told me friends that I knew how to ride a bike when I obviously didn’t. I was an anxious kid who worried that people would judge me if I told them that I didn’t know something.

You can only fool some people some time, not all people all the time. Above that, you cannot fool yourself. When people find out that you had been pretending all along, that can possibly shatter your confidence and relationships like nothing else.

In order to have a healthier self-esteem, you must first accept that nobody knows everything, and not everybody is good at everything. You might be a good writer, but that doesn’t mean you will necessarily be a good orator. Stop being pretentious in an attempt to please others.

It may be one of the hardest things to do; you may feel exposed and vulnerable to let go of your inhibitions and show your authentic self to the world, you may even feel feeble for some time, but it will be your first step on the path to resumption and growth.

3. BELIEF

As a teenager, I lived in a perpetual state of fear and self-doubt; I doubted myself to the extent that I was always doing things that others wanted me to do, rather than taking decisions for my own self.

It has been rightly said that you live the life you create. Hence, you must also believe in your capacity to make changes.  Believing in your competence does not happen overnight, and it does not happen naturally. A good start would be to list down your strengths and weaknesses and then work on them.

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You are responsible for your happiness and success. In fact, you create it if you believe in yourself. Pixabay

If someone criticizes you, see it as a chance for you to improve. If someone does better than you, take it as an opportunity to learn from their action. Do not let these experiences shake your trust in your own self.

4. RESPONSIBILITY

Take 100% responsibility for your actions. Do not let things happen to you, instead make things happen for you.

You are bound to make mistakes and let people down; do not fear that. Quit making excuses when that happens, and accept failures as an outcome of your own actions. Do not indulge in self-loathing and be open to accept responsibility when you are at fault. I have grown to maintain a ‘I am sorry, how can I fix this?’ attitude and that has been incredibly beneficial to my confidence.

It might seem hard initially, but confidence stems from an understanding that YOU are doing the right thing.

5. WORRY

One mantra that I believe in with all my heart is – Either do something. Or completely quit thinking about it. Stop second-guessing and devoting extended amount of time to the ‘what-ifs’.

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If you want to paint, pick up a paper, some brushes, and a color palette and draw what your heart desires. If you want to learn a sport or a dance form, enroll yourself in a class and enjoy every session you attend. Don’t worry if it will turn out good. Don’t worry whether you have any previous knowledge about your new interest. Don’t worry about what people will think. Don’t worry if you will be better than your friends or your colleagues. Just immerse yourself in the moment, and move on.

Worrying about what others think of you or seeking confirmations for your actions will only keep you from doing something good for yourself.

Your self-esteem is a measure of what YOU think about yourself and how worthy YOU think you are. Do not look for external affirmations. Set expectations for yourself, fulfill them for YOURself, and be somebody you can be proud of.

6. COMPARISON

I realized that I doubt myself the most when I compare my life with what other people are doing.

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If we continue to compare our life with others, it will only fetch us discontentment. One must make comparisons with self, it brings improvement. Pixabay

In order to have a healthier self-esteem, you have to understand what works for you and what makes you feel good even if it is different from what someone else desires. No two things can be similar, and that goes for life, as well.

7. KINDNESS

I realized that I was continuously (and blindly) chasing targets- I wanted to score better than my friends in the exams, have a better job than they do, find a bigger house than theirs, have a smarter partner. In an attempt to come first in this rat-race, I forget how hard I was being on myself.

Practicing self-compassion is not as difficult as you may perceive. I can break it down to a two-way process,

  1. Care about yourself and be kind instead of being cruelly self-critical
  2. Do not exaggerate or ignore problems or your mistakes, and look at them with a clear mind.

An important step to develop confidence in yourself is to be kinder to your own self. Remind yourself that you’re doing your best, and even when that may not seem enough, tell yourself that you are willing to learn. Surround yourself with compassionate voices, and your own voice should be in that list – make sure that instead of being extremely critical and judgmental of your actions, you are highly receptive and appreciative of your efforts.

I know today that I am not perfect, and I do not even have to try to be that. Perfection to me is a myth. I am far from perfect but I am happy. You can be too.
Be human, and that should be enough.
And above all, hold on to the thought that you are capable.


 

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