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New Delhi: A research revealed that when it comes to online dating, women do not like to make the first move but would rather send ‘meek signals’ in order to continue the chat.

Even if they are interested, the women still do not take a step forward to initiate the online chatting.

Weak signalling is the ability to visit or ‘check out’ a potential mate’s profile so the potential mate knows the focus-user visited.

Women, cleverly would use flirting equivalents using the suggestive look or bodily gesture like a hair toss to one side or an over the shoulder glance, subjecting to innumerable interpretations and various misinterpretations.

It has also been found that users with anonymous identity viewed more number of profiles. It is also likely that they checks out same-sex and interracial matches.

But mostly they end up with fewer matches than non-anonymous counterparts.

The female users with anonymous browsing end up with an average of 14 percent fewer matches.

Men being on the bold and unreserved side, take the cue.

“Men send four times the number of messages than women do,” said Akhmed Umyarov, assistant professor at University of Minnesota.

50,000 users were given free access to feature for a month to examine the impact of anonymous browsing telling them to view profiles of other users without leaving digital traces.

Professor Ravi Bapna said, “Even though people are willing to pay to become anonymous in online dating sites, we find that the feature is detrimental to the average users.”

Future academic analysis on online dating can be followed using this study published in the journal Management Science.

Such experiments can prove to be useful in online matching platforms, improving the consumer experience. But experiments are to be done ethically, the researchers added.(IANS)


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Changed Dating Trends Among Millennials Might Be a COVID Blessing

The silver lining of this pandemic might be the changed dating trends of millennials

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The pandemic might have done some unintentional good to online dating millennials. Pixabay


While 2020 may have sent the world into a tizzy, and dramatically changed the pace of everyone’s life, for global dating app OkCupid’s CMO Melissa Hobley, the silver lining of COVID-19 has been time for reflection, reconnection and some interesting insights from the world of single people.

“The year 2020 has been nothing like I expected when celebrating it on January 1. Dining tables do double duty as office desks, weekend plans are now Zoom calls with family and friends, and going out has become a stroll to the kitchen pantry. To me, this has been a time to reflect on my goals and dreams and make space for them,” Hobley told IANSlife over email.

On the work front, Hobley reflects that for singles across the world, one of those resolutions in the year has been to find love and millennials in India have proved that love will never be locked down. What used to be a casual coffee date or romantic dinner date night or long drive is now long hours of chatting, video calls, and FaceTime, leading to meaningful conversations that spark an emotional connection – all from the safety of our comfortable homes.

“There are millions of millennials across the globe quarantining at home alone or with their families, friends and roommates. This practice of social distancing has set in a void leading to a strong impulse and a real desire to fill it by meeting new and interesting people. Millennials are looking forward to forming new bonds with their kind of people and online dating gives them one such exciting avenue with the safety of social distance,” Hobley shared.

This urge, needless to say, has led to a massive spike in the user base for dating apps globally.

On OkCupid, 91 per cent Indian users are still looking to date virtually resulting in a 26 per cent increase in conversations on the app. According to the app’s CMO, it is going to be interesting to hear “how we met” stories of millennials who matched with their partners and built strong connections through virtual dating.

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Online dating trends in millennials might be transformed for good in lockdown. Pixabay

This change in pace has brought back the best parts of courtship. By slowing down dating, millennials are discovering love through long, meaningful moments apart.

“Users on OkCupid are taking more time reading profiles to connect with people on the same wavelength, discussing the important things – values, beliefs and quirks (and the odd Hogwarts’s House, which if you ask me is super important!) with time on their hands, millennials are getting to know each other and forging emotional connections.

“The fact that geography, visas and expensive air tickets, are not a barrier anymore for singletons, it is helping them interact with people across the globe and engage in diverse conversations with the most diverse set of people. To the surprise of dating apps, this trend of meeting people in different countries and geographical locations is proving to be a massive hit where more and more millennials are using the feature to learn more about different cultures and diversity,” Hobley notes.

With virtual dating in vogue, millennials are leaving no stones unturned and are being super creative. They are not letting the pandemic come in the way of finding innovative ways of spending time with a partner of their choice virtually.

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However, in all this excitement, the official suggests a few things to steer away from. “Stay inside and do not make plans to meet offline in a rush. This is important for everyone’s safety and health.” With “getting swept away while staying put”, dating might never be the same again, she signs off. (IANS)

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Airbnb and Bumble Take Online Dating A Step Ahead With Their New Venture

Online dating took a notch up with this virtual experience by Bumble and Airbnb for singles in lockdown

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Online dating made simple and more innovative by Bumble and Airbnb. Pixabay

If you’re single right now and looking to mingle virtually, you’re not alone.

To help star-crossed matches connect from afar, Airbnb and Bumble together are releasing a collection of Bumble-approved Online Experiences that are perfect to spicing up your virtual date and engaging with each other in fun, meaningful ways.

Lean into your shared culinary cravings with a wine glass with an expert in Portugal or learn how to make Mexican Street tacos together. You can even virtually sneak away to a hidden date-night spot, like the secret Amsterdam jazz club, watch a live show with sangria and drag queens in Lisbon. Some of the Online Experiences you can pick for a perfect virtual date include:

Turkish Fortune Coffee Reading (New York, New York)

Fall in Laugh (Lisbon, Portugal)

Tarot Reading with Mak Jagger (Austin, Texas)

Meet the Wooly Sheep of My New Zealand Farm (Rotorua, New Zealand)

GINspiration History & Cocktails at Home (Bath, United Kingdom)

Discover the Rhythms of Puerto Rico (Hatillo, Puerto Rico)

Pasta with Luca & Lorenzo (Florence, Italy)

All about Coffee with a Pro Taster (Bogote, Colombia)

Drink and Draw (Lisbon, Portugal)

Farm to Table from the Mediterranean (Klis, Croatia)

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Online dating made easier with a well-curated virtual experience by Bumble and Airbnb. Pixabay

The backup of other guests from around the world on an Online Experience with you and your match may help put first date jitters at ease. Those who want to sneak away for quality time together can also opt for private bookings and request specific booking dates. Booking seats through this feature has been gaining popularity, as they have tripled since pre-pandemic bookings.

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Bumble recently announced the launch of its new virtual dating tolls including a “Virtual Dating” badge that will appear in users’ profiles who are open to date via video chat. This badge allows Bumble users to find and filter their prospective matches based on who is looking to date virtually. During this time when it’s best to take dates virtual, Bumble has also expanded its distance filters to allow users to match with anyone in their country. (IANS)

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Lockdown Diaries: Tips to Keep your Virtual Dating Lives Going

OkCupid shares some simple tips for virtual lovers

Make your online dating life amazing with some tips from online dating app OkCupid. Pixabay

Dont let the lockdown keep you from finding a meaningful relationship. With a majority of the worlds population under isolation, an increasing number of quarantined singles are dating virtually from the safety of their homes, leading this generation to rediscover the joy of courtship.

Dating app OkCupid has witnessed a 26 percent increase in conversations and a solid 12 percent increase in matches in India. A whopping 91 percent of the app’s millennial users have said that they’ll continue to date, albeit virtually. But what is virtual dating and how do you navigate it?

OkCupid shares these simple tips and tricks for you to keep your dating lives rocking while you are locked in.

Be yourself

With connections moving to longer conversations and dates over calls and video instead of in real life, make sure you’re being your real self. At the end of the day, you deserve to meet someone who will love you for who you are. Pretending to be someone you are not will only complicate your dating situation if you are really looking forward to meeting this person.

Don’t limit love to a pincode

Compatibility isn’t restricted to a geographic area. Especially during the quarantine, where a distance of a kilometre is as good as being on another continent. Experiment a little and set your distance preference to global. Match with somebody on your wavelength – not just somebody in the same neighbourhood.

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Be yourself in front of your online partner. Pixabay

Dress up for date night

Date nights are special, let your clothes reflect that. As much as you are looking forward to seeing your match at their best, the person on the other side of the screen is also expecting the same. Don’t let the quarantine keep you from the joys of putting together that perfect date outfit.

or a start, it will add to your confidence which will show in your conversations. Most importantly, it shows that you were looking forward to that (virtual) date and are willing to put in some effort. But hey, if the theme of your first date is pajamas – right on. Over 73 percent Indian millennials on OkCupid said they dress up and wear something nice for a date.

Do something fun

Think about your ideal date – watching a movie? Sharing a meal? Now translate that to the virtual world for a date to remember. Activities, like watching a movie together or setting up drink dates, could be a fun activity as it will also help you know the fun side of your match, and also their choice in entertainment. When asked what their ideal virtual date activity is, India showed a clear preference – at a 41 percent preference rate – for a meal and drinks connected by technology.

Take your time

There is no time like the present to match with somebody interesting or pick up that long-forgotten conversation. Life is a little slower than usual these days, so take this time to actually figure out your kind and look for a mental and emotional connection.

If there is one thing the quarantine has done, it is to make time for you to truly get to know somebody and make sure you’re compatible before taking it to the next level, virtually!

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Don’t plan any physical dates during the lockdown. Pixabay

While virtual dating is fun and exciting, please steer away from setting up any physical dates, for now. Use this time to really get to know each other- long phone calls, shared activities, the list is endless. Please stay inside for your, your match’s and everyone’s safety.

While the pandemic is our reality and we are tuned to new conversations around it all the time, try going beyond this topic. You are more than the current situation and it’s important for your match to know and recognise that. Don’t rush it. Exactly like dating in real life, take your time. Text each other and build a rapport before exchanging numbers and hopping onto video calls and virtual dates. There’s no time like the present to dial it back and relearn slow dating.

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Don’t lose your spirit. Technical glitches or awkward silences, especially on your first date, making you lose confidence? Please don’t. These slips ups could happen even in person and may not be in your control. These moments have the potential to be fun stories for you to share with each other in the future. So keep your cool, laugh a little and stay patient.

Finally, no �ghosting’, please. You had the first experience of a virtual date with your match but you really don’t feel your heart racing or butterflies in your stomach? Be honest with your date and tell them. Either way, you never have to see them again but you might end up gaining respect and a friend. (IANS)