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Toxic friendships exist in the same way that people might find themselves in toxic romantic relationships.

Human lives are built on the foundation of social relationships. Friendships are like lifelines for many of us as friends may help us feel good about ourselves. We can share our joy and grief with our friends. Friends are indeed a blessing in one's life. They can improve any situation, no matter how bad it appears to be. We all have different groups of friends, some of whom we refer to as best friends, some of whom we turn to for advice, and some who are simply travel companions. On the other hand, fake friends are the ones we should avoid at all costs. They will be as sweet as sugar, but only for their own benefit.

Toxic friendships exist in the same way that people might find themselves in toxic romantic relationships. Here are some signs that you may be dealing with fake friends:


1. They have a habit of disappearing when you need them

"A friend in need is a friend indeed." If a friend isn't there for you, even virtually, when they know you are going through a hard time or if the support they provide you with doesn't seem genuine or if they try to show fake sympathy, understand that they aren't the kind of friends you should have around you. The presence of a friend should be calming and comforting.

woman reaching out for a hand The presence of a friend should be calming and comforting. | Photo by Noah Buscher on Unsplash


2. They don't feel happy for your accomplishments

It's not you; it's them. If your friend doesn't feel happy about your achievements and treats your accomplishment as something that is not great, they are comparing their life with yours and taking out their discontentment out on you. Move yourself and your thoughts away from people who do not clap when you win, both physically and emotionally. Those are NOT your "friends." A true friend is supposed to support and appreciate your efforts even if you fail.

two girls facing away from each other Move yourself and your thoughts away from people who do not clap when you win, both physically and emotionally. | Photo by Obie Fernandez on Unsplash


3. They have no respect for you

Their subtle taunting, playful insults, and even praises make you feel uneasy, and you want to get away from them. Teasing may be funny at times, but not always. This behaviour can impact you negatively and may lead you to doubt your own self. Sometimes the severity may even lead to psychological issues. A friend should respect your opinion as well as your needs. A supportive friend, surely, goes a long way.

group of students Tasing may be funny at times, but not always. | Photo by Jerry Zhang on Unsplash


4. They keep gossiping about people

Fake friends take great pleasure in controversies. Other people's suffering is their breakfast. While some of us despise pointless drama, for others, the act of creating or participating in it can be energising. Such people are fundamentally bullies who want to feel superior over others or take pleasure in their troubles to feel delighted, strong and amused. Avoid these kinds of friends like the coronavirus.

woman whispering on woman's ear while hands on lips Fake friends take great pleasure in controversies. | Photo by Ben White on Unsplash


5. Are they on your side?

Fake friends will only be around for as long as there is no damage to their image or as long as everyone likes them. These people are extremely diplomatic; they will allow you to walk on a bridge which they know is broken and pretend to help when they see you are struggling. That demonstrates how cruel and manipulative they are.

brown wooden bridge over green grass field Fake friends will only be around for as long as there is no damage to their image or as long as everyone likes them. | Photo by Zane Persaud on Unsplash


6. They only contact you when they need something

Every time their name appears on your phone screen, they will only call you if they have a specific reason, which may be "Hey! do my assignment please." or something for which you are needed. It seems that you are only remembered when there is a favour to ask. Your help may be much acknowledged, but be prepared to be ghosted till the day they want you to do another task for them.

woman in white shirt using smartphone Fake friends only contact you when they need a favour. | Photo by bruce mars on Unsplash


People who are fake become fake friends. There is nothing they can do to make you feel better about yourself except waste your time, money, affection, and energy. The friends with whom we choose to spend our time significantly impact our overall well-being and happiness, so choose your friends wisely.


(Keywords: friends, fake friends, frienship, relationships, contact, respect, need, help, diplomatic)


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