Tension has surrounded us as the inevitable guest of our lives. Everyone is stressed today, be it a student or a well-settled man. These pressures highly affect our lives in a negative way and then efforts are made to withdraw these tensions out of our lives. These efforts are very fair on their part because who doesn’t want to stay happy? Who does not want to be ahead? Who wants to be left out, when the whole world is moving forward? The solution is not the perception of this world as enchantment and illusion. The solution lies in clearing the mental blocks in the atmosphere.
A mental block affects one’s ability to perform a mental action, creativity, skill, career or life. It is an unmanageable suppression of painful, unwanted thoughts or memories. An emotional turmoil is the cause of the majority of mental blocks. There is a possibility that a wrong choice might make a student realize that it was not his cup of tea and cause mental blocks. Performance concern might make an athlete lose focus. These mental blocks are a mixture of the memory of incidents and emotions related to that incidents and it is essential to remove both of them.
We can’t keep on accumulating these mental blocks; there is a need to liberate them. There are many ways through which you can release these mental blocks. The first step in tackling these blocks is acceptance. Dr Shaji Prabhakaran, a senior consultant neurologist says “Understand that it can happen to anyone around you. Take a break, relax, find other interests and pursue them. Instead fact, activities like yoga can be of great help. If nothing is effective, do not give up. Seek professional help.”
It’s not necessary for a mental block to be sudden. Dr C.J. John, chief psychiatrist of Medical Trust Hospital, Kochi feels that some events might trigger suppressed memories and unconsciously block emotions. This can range from witnessing a death to a traumatic sexual abuse. There is no definite reason to why the mind acts this way and obsessing about it doesn’t actually help much.
Dr John further helps to give solution by saying that there is a need to address the aspect that bothers you and engage in confidence-building activities, in place of getting tormented. He gives the ideal advice of focusing on life above materialism, he also suggests people to be contented in their life and choose peace over worries. There is a need to start afresh in life which involves letting go your past. If you are not happy with your present job, change your job, if you are not happy with the present situation; change your plan of action. Indulge yourself in a new lifestyle and know your priorities and make a suitable schedule for yourself.
Relaxation is also one way by which you can get detoxed. Psychotherapy can also help us to declutter these mental blocks. It includes treating mental disorder through psychological means, by working on emotional and mental state of a person. Despite them, meditation is the most important and effective in clearing mental blocks. It’s the most successful method in getting rid of the mental blocks. It helps to flushes out the emotions and also the memory related to that emotion. You can get completely get relieved of these mental blocks after practicing meditation regularly.
For everyone around, who is living a busy life, a target-oriented life, escaping mental blocks is nearly impossible. There is a need to cultivate the capacity to deal well with the fast pace. It just needs a simple similar effort on your part as needed in clearing a cluttered room. Reorder the things in your life and break the mental wall that blocks your way.
Are you left out by your friends due to improper communicative techniques? Beware, as it may take a toll on your health. New research reveals that people with poor social skills may be at a greater risk of developing mental as well as physical health problems.
Importance of Social Communication Skills in avoiding Mental Health Problems
Social skills refer to the communication skills that allow people to interact effectively and appropriately with others. They are mostly learned over time, originating in the family and continuing throughout life.
The use of technology, like texting, is probably one of the biggest impediments to developing social skills among young people nowadays, the researchers said.
“We have known for a long time that social skills are associated with mental health problems like depression and anxiety,” said Chrin Segrin, a professor at the University of Arizona.
“But it was not known definitively that social skills were also predictive of poorer physical health. Two variables — loneliness and stress — appear to be the glue that bind poor social skills to health. People with poor social communication skills have high levels of stress and loneliness in their lives,” Segrin added.
The researchers studied over 775 people, aged between 18 to 91 years, and were provided a questionnaire addressing their social communication skills, stress, loneliness, and mental and physical health.
The results found that the participants who had deficits in those skills reported more stress, loneliness, and poorer mental and physical health.
The study, published in the journal Health Communication, mentioned that while the negative effects of stress on the body have been known for a long time, loneliness is a more recently recognized health risk factor. It is as serious a risk as smoking, obesity or eating a high-fat diet with lack of exercise.(IANS)
How many times have you told your father that you love him? How often have you thanked your teacher for always being the light of your life? Was it easy telling your partner how you feel about them? As humans, our words sometimes restrict us. Overwhelmed by emotions, we find it hard to express how we feel. We say, “I don’t have words to say.” We say we are lost for words. It is in these moments that flowers give us back the words we need. Without any formal idea, we all assume flowers and their meanings and use them to convey emotions.
We have long relied on flowers to convey emotions and messages when words failed. Haven’t you surprised your partner with a bunch of roses without a reason sometimes? Why do you instinctively carry flowers to see patients in a hospital?
Flowers have deeper meanings and whether we know them or not, we attempt to convey our messages using gorgeous blossoms!
Flowers have a language, and the larger world understands it as Floriography.
Beginning Of The Language of Flowers
Flowers with their gorgeous hues and intricate patterns have held symbolic meanings for centuries and had been in use to convey messages in Persia and the Middle East since times immemorial. However, floriography did not see the light of the day until the late 19th century England.
It was in the Victorian Era, in societies governed by strict rules and etiquette that flowers came to have a secret language. However, it was not not easy to decode the numerous flowers and their meanings.
With the publication of various flower dictionaries, the language of flowers came to the masses, and evoked different meaning of plants, flowers and herbs. It was then that floriography emerged and spread as a tradition throughout England.
Floriography And Victorian Floral Arrangements
19th century England was nothing in ideology as depicted in the books written at the time. While books of the time were obsessed with romance, citizens did not enjoy the privilege to express affection openly; the expression of romance was relentlessly constrained in a society that had very strict rules around interaction between the genders.
Women from the Victorian Era would categorically carry small bouquets to evade the bad odor coming from the streets. The scent of the flowers would not only block the smells, but also announce their arrival through its freshness and added to their beauty.
Nosegays, as these bouquets were called, were the first means for communicating secret messages by the use of flowers. Men would gift the women they admired with nosegays arranged in a specific pattern, conveying complex, however detailed messages.
Victorian flower arrangements had more than what met the eye. Each flower in the nosegays conveyed different meaning. Not only did the flowers alter meanings, the pattern in which they were arranged would convey different emotions.
The women-folk would indicate their response to the message by the manner in which they held the nosegays; a nosegay held against the chest would mean an acceptance of the message while holding it pointing downwards would mean a rejection.
Flowers And Their Meanings
Today, very few people can decode different flowers and their meanings. If anything at all, they know that red roses denote love, orchids are for beauty, olives mean peace and forget-me-nots are well, a reminder to never forget about me.
Choosing The Right Flowers
If paid attention, it is not very difficult to understand the different flowers and their meanings.
Convey emotions through the language of flowers; when words fall short, let the art of floriography convey what the heart desires.
But you must be careful when selecting a flower! While every flower carries a deeper meaning, not every flower may convey what you intend to.
Each flower has its own meaning, and that can vary according to the flower’s hue. Did you know that a single-colored Carnation symbolizes a ‘yes’ when a striped Carnation is associated with a firm ‘no’?
Here is a list that talks about different flowers and their meanings; a list that entails the flowers that you should better not give to someone if you wish to show your affection or convey their importance in your life,
What does the Carnation flower mean?
Carnations are found in a variety of colors and each hue symbolizes a unique and rich association. White carnations suggest pure love and innocence, whereas dark red carnations are for deep love and affection, pride and admiration.
Wondering about the meaning of pink carnations? It is believed that pink carnations first appeared on the earth with Virgin Mary’s tears and have been hence, believed to symbolize a mother’s undying love.
While carnations in general mean affection and pride, beware to never present striped or yellow carnations to your beloved.
Yellow carnations means hate. So the next time someone gets you some yellow carnations, you might as well imagine them saying, “I loathe you!”
On the other hand, striped carnations for simply mean “no”. Because they are a mix of colors, striped carnations are a gentler way to simply mean refusal. When paired with another solid color, they strongly express regret.
What does the Marigold mean?
Early Christians placed flowers on Virgin Mary’s altar in place of coins, which is where the flower Marigold gets its name from; it is believed to mean ‘Mary’s Gold’.
Marigold is associated with the sun – it is bright, vibrant and yellow.
However, Marigolds are also symbolic of cruelty and grief. The blooming flower is believed to denote strong passion to the extent that it transcends into jealousy, which is not a positive emotion for any relationship.
In Victorian Era, Marigold symbolized the desire for riches, and the flower is also hence believed to utter a call of desperation; definitely not an emotion you would want to present somebody.
What does the anemone flower mean?
Stories about anemone flowers mostly circle around death, which is why the anemone flower is often linked with being abandoned and forsaken.
Tracing its roots in the Greek mythology, the Anemone flowers are believed to have sprung out of Aphrodite’s tears as she mourned the death of Adonis, the love of her life. Henceforth, the Anemone flowers have been interpreted as a symbol of dying love, or the departure of a love that will never return.
A flower to express distance between two people, a bunch of anemone flowers simply mean “I feel abandoned”.
4. Yellow rose
What does a yellow rose mean?
We have all grown up believing that a red rose stands for love and affection, a white rose means purity and a yellow rose symbolizes friendship. But that is where we are wrong!
In the Victorian Era, the color yellow was associated with negative connotations, ranging from lukewarm affection to jealousy.
A yellow rose hence, represents jealousy and infidelity. It may also mean diminishing emotions, a love that is nearing its end. Yellow rose may also mean farewell, combined with a hint of sorrow.
The association of yellow rose with friendship is believed to be an invention of rose cartels to expand the sale of the flower. Surprisingly, that is the more popularly known (and believed) interpretation, too.
It is not very difficult to understand the decode different flowers and their meanings. While there are numerous flowers that express affection, grief, care and concern, there are handfuls that denote negative emotions. Refer to our list the next time you wish to buy flowers for somebody and remember to never get these flowers if you wish to show your affection,
Crocus I need some time to think
Lavender I do not trust you
Tansy Leave me alone
Geranium You do not seem right for me
A dried white rose I would literally die than be with you
United Kingdom, October 19, 2017 : We all know yawing is contagious – if we look at a person yawn, we tend to yawn too. But can interactions or merely looking at another individual make us experience the same emotions that they are going through?
If findings from a new study are believed, researchers suggest emotions are contagious!
Researchers at the University of Warwick believe that it is possible for individuals to catch both positive and negative moods of the people they interact with.
The study has been published in the journal Royal Society Open Science and sheds light on the importance of choosing the right company.
As part of the study, researchers analyzed a volunteering group of US teenagers and recorded their behavioral patterns and changes, with respect to their interaction with their peers.
The research observed that an increasing number of individuals experienced low and upsetting mood and were more likely to have mood swings with friends who were upset. On the other hand, individuals with a cheerful and happy peer group were recorded to remain happier, in general.
Researchers largely understand this phenomenon as ‘emotional contagion’ and attribute it as a three-step process by which an individual ‘catches’ another person’s feelings.
The process can be better understood as follows,
Stage I: Non-conscious mimicry: In this stage, individuals copy another person’s gesticulations, behavior, or expressions.
Stage II: In this stage, people share an internal feedback. Because you mimicked your friend’s frown, you begin to feel low too.
Stage III: In the final stage, individuals are believed to share their experiences with their friends until their reactions, and emotions are synchronized.
The science of emotional contagion goes back to 400 B.C., when Hippocrates, the founder of medicine, observed that some women seemed to transfer “hysteria” to one another
The tendency to ‘catch’ another person’s emotions is not new- the first record dates back to 400 BC when Hippocrates, the founder of medicine, realized that some women were possibly transferring ‘hysteria’ to each-other. However, it was only in the recent past that researchers have begun to analyze the dynamics behind the contagious nature of feelings and emotions in human relationships.
Thus, it is possible that you may unknowingly begin imitating an upset friend’s behavior when you were having a good day yourself, and in turn begin to morph into an unhappy state yourself.
Researchers assert there are two aims of social interactions and communication.
According to Professor Frances Griffiths, the co-author of the study, there are multiple components of mood that can spread socially.
According to him, a primary aim of social interventions could be for the development and maintenance of friendly relationships to reduce the likelihood of depression. “A secondary aim could be to reduce spreading of negative mood,” he said.
The contagious nature of emotions can become increasingly amplified when people are in frequent contact with one another.
Thus, the study places emphasis on the need to wisely choose the company you keep, so that you can potentially catch other people’s good moods, rather than their upset, low or bad moods.
While it does not suggest that you should abandon a friend who s upset, what the study certainly says is that you must seclude yourself if you have a serial moaner in your peer circle.