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Do Parents have different Standards and Expectations from Sons and Daughters?

There exists a double standard in dealing with sons and daughters

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– by Athina Ann Thomas

Jan 16, 2017: All parents want their children to do well in life. They even dream and plan for their children before their birth. They want the best for their children. But when it comes to girls and boys, do parents have different hopes and standards? Yes, they do!

Most parents are more concerned about their son’s education than for their daughter’s. It is sad to see that some parents though educated, subconsciously think that the daughter will get married and leave while the son will be there for them.

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Sons are considered as a blessing, the person who will carry forward the legacy of the family. At some parts of the country, it is even said that “educating a daughter is like watering a plant sowed in someone else’s garden.”

There exists a double standard in dealing with sons and daughters. Girls are trained to be homemakers and brought up with a mentality that their main purpose in life is to take care of a husband and two children.

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On the other hand, sons are encouraged to be outgoing, to take part in sports and given all the liberties that girls are generally deprived of. They are brought up with a mentality that in the future they will be earning a living for their family.

It’s not that these families do not educate their daughters, they do but their focus is more on the boys. They are not bothered for their daughter as much as the son. The saddest part is that even educated families do this. They are willing to spend a good part of the family resources on the son’s career building but are not willing to do the same for their daughter, but they are willing to spend on the daughter’s marriage.

In many countries including ours, higher education is a privilege of the boys. Parents are unwilling to send their daughters to higher classes because they are physically mature. There exists an unexplainable fear that danger lurks behind them.

Even now parents do not appreciate their daughters freely mingling with classmates especially students of the opposite sex. There is a limitation in freedom of speech and freedom of expression. There is fear that if a girl is given freedom she may revolt and go against traditional beliefs and customs of the society in which first comes marriage to a person of her own choice.

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No matter how educated a person is- these are some customs that the society follows since time immemorial. Thus I conclude by saying that even in the twenty-first-century parents do have different hopes and expectations from sons and daughters. 

Centre for Social Action (CSA) is the development wing of Christ University. Set up in 1999, it believes in strengthening student community with a view to enabling positive changes in the society. Athina Ann Thomas is a volunteer at the organisation.

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A Family In Delhi Commits Suicide To Thank God: Police Reports

Every step taken on the night the family died was written almost a week back.

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A Family In Delhi Commits Suicide To Thank God: Police Reports
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The death mystery of Bhatia family in Delhi is getting shocking as the investigation reports are coming out. According to latest report, Delhi Police Crime Branch rules out the possibility of murder in the mysterious case. The initial investigation has shown possibility of a spiritual angel, and now it seems like it is confirmed. According to Times Now sources, the family was supposed to perform some other pooja however, they died while performing it.

As per the latest reports, every step taken on the night the family died was written almost a week back. Also, the ‘pooja’ began the same day when dairy-entry was made. The aim of the ‘pooja’ was to thank god for his blessings bestowed upon the Bhatia family.

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The sources in the police team probing the deaths told Times Now that younger son of Narayani Devi, Lalit was performing these poojas for the betterment of the family since eleven years. He started the rituals after his father’s death. During these years, the man managed to convince the Bhatia family that because of their father’s soul the family was becoming financially strong. After the death of their father, family’s business expanded. Initially, they had one shop but ‘because of the positive soul of their father’ they managed to own three more shops.

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However, CCTV footage gained by police shows a woman of the family bringing in the five stools used in the mass hangings – exactly at 10 pm. This followed a script in one of the diaries found in the house after the deaths. The footage shows that the family voluntarily took steps for mass suicide. (IANS)