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Everything You Need To Know About The #MeToo Movement

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Spread of awareness. No more such thing as boys are boys.
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By Dr. Bharti Raizada

Sexual violence is widely prevalent and is a real issue.

Sexual violence and associated trauma can range from minor to major.

As per CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention), one in every 3 women and one in every 6 men have experienced sexual violence in the form of physical contact.

Many incidents are unreported.

Following statement is from an article, by Brendan Murphy, in AMA wire,

“Nearly, 15% of medical students- 1 in 7-have reported being subjected to offensive sexist remarks or names, while 4% reported being the victim of unwanted sexual harassment, according to data from the 2017 association of American Medical Colleges’ of Graduation questionnaire.”

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The hushed whispers are getting louder. Flickr

Who is the victim?

Anyone can be a victim and it can occur at any age- in childhood, in youth or in old age. Victim can be a working woman, homemaker, women in power, or student. It happens in rich families and poor families, in developing countries and developed countries, in joint families and nuclear families, basically everywhere. Boys/males can also be victims.

Who is the Culprit?

  1. Usually, the Perpetrator/Molester/Predator is a male
  2. Family members
  3. People in power
  4. People in workplace.
  5. Even females can be the perpetrators.

These people may have a double personality- one for victims and one for everyone else. They may be well respected in family, community, and society.

Why many victims do not speak at the time of the incident?

  1. They fail to realize what happened
  2. Are in denial
  3. The victim is a child and does not know whom to report and what to say.
  4. Believe that if they speak up then no one will believe them as molesters are usually well respected in the society or are powerful and famous.
  5. Believe that they will not get support and will be asked to shut up, stay silent and hide the incident and will be marginalized.
  6. Believe that they will be blamed and stigmatized for what happened.
  7. If the abuser is a known or family member, they do not want to destroy relations.
  8. Are ashamed to speak up.
  9. Victims are told that it is normal and to just get over it and forget and move forward as there are better things to do in life.
  10. They are threatened with consequences and retaliation.
  11. Are scared of the person or scared to lose job and promotion.
  12. They are labeled a troublemaker.
  13. Reporting and legal proceedings are long; itself a harassment, need money and time off work, become a public incident, and the topic of gossips.
  14. Authorities are working for institutions and corporations and not for victims.
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#MeToo movement is a movement against sexual harassment and sexual assault. #MeToo spread virally in October 2017. Flickr

Effects on victim

  1. Mental trauma, Posttraumatic stress disorder
  2. Recollection and reliving of events if they see someone else going through same.
  3. Abnormal relations and sexual life
  4. Becoming the perpetrator herself and driving pleasure by seeing others suffering in a similar way.
  5. Becoming violent and harming the perpetrator
  6. Suicide and homicide can occur

What are the options?

  1. Be strong and say no to abuse.
  2. Expose these people during or immediately after the incident or asap
  3. Collect evidence and report to authorities
  4. Confront the molester directly.
  5. Take counseling
  6. Support other victims.
  7. Males and females who are witnesses should come out of their comfort zones and support victim and speak up the truth
  8. The Person who does this is sick and needs treatment, support, and counseling. Help him also.
  9. Accept victims with dignity, love, and respect. Help them heal. Give them resources.
  10. Forget and forgive. Some victims may even forget the incidence.
  11. Have a big heart and understand that predator is not the same person now and has a family and career and your truth can destroy his world and his family who is not at fault.
  12. Male victim should also speak up and come forward, spread awareness, and help prevent it.
  13. Make support groups for victims, molesters, and their families.
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Do not accept that it is a norm and do not keep tolerating. Flickr

What not to do-

  1. Do not accept that it is a norm and do not keep tolerating
  2. Do not let yourself in risky or life-threatening situations.
  3. Do not spread hate
  4. Do not use this movement as an opportunity to take revenge, blame innocent people, and destroy their relations, family, happiness, career etc. Do not use this movement as a weapon to harass someone.

What is not #metoo:

If someone is telling you to do proper work at workplace.

Someone is harassing you in a way that is not sexual in nature.

Someone is unfair at work.

Consensual sexual act.

Guessing that x person has done it.

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Anyone can be a victim and it can occur at any age. Flickr

The result of this movement

  1. Spread of awareness. No more such thing as boys are boys.
  2. Victims have courage to come forward, speak up and get support.
  3. The perpetrators are being called, and justice is being served.

There are real victims and there are opportunists.

Men are fearing women and are avoiding contact with them. There are talks about consent forms. Should men carry the consent forms with them all the time and get one signed by a girl before any little thing or interaction with females. Men are scared and nervous. They may not like to work with females or guide them or mentor them or hire them out of fear.

What needs to stop

  1. Sexual harassment, assault, molestation, and violence
  2. False allegations, accusations
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Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) politician M.J. Akbar takes the oath during the swearing-in ceremony of new ministers, July 5, 2017, at the Presidential Palace in New Delhi. The Indian minister and veteran newspaper editor announced his resignation, Oct. 17, 2018, while still insisting that the accusations of sexual harassment are false. VOA

Some Shows and Reads based on this issue-

Movie—Monsoon wedding ( family member is influential, well respected and is child predator).

One episode of Satyamev Jayate on child sexual abuse.

Allegations against Dr.  Robicheaux, and Ms. Riley and Dr. Larry Nassar. (People in power and at the workplace).

Allegations against Nana Pateker and Alok Nath (Famous People)

Movie I am- based on Male child sexual abuse by a family member

Dr. Bharti Raizada is a Chicago based anesthesiologist

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Women In India Turn To Technology To Stay Safe From Harassment

Police in many Indian cities are also encouraging women to use apps to register complaints

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Women stand at a crowded place in the southern Indian city of Bangalore, Oct. 9, 2006. Safety is the biggest concern for women using public and private transport, according to a survey Thursday. VOA

New web and phone apps in India are helping women stay safe in public spaces by making it easier for them to report harassment and get help, developers say.

Women are increasingly turning to technology to stay safe in public spaces, which in turn helps the police to map “harassment prone” spots — from dimly lit roads to bus routes and street corners.

Safety is the biggest concern for women using public and private transport, according to a Thomson Reuters Foundation survey released Thursday, as improving city access for women becomes a major focus globally.

“Women always strategize on how to access public spaces, from how to dress to what mode of transport to take, timings and whether they should travel alone or in a group,” said Sameera Khan, columnist and co-author of “Why Loiter? Women And Risk On Mumbai Streets.”

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Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) politician M.J. Akbar takes the oath during the swearing-in ceremony of new ministers, July 5, 2017, at the Presidential Palace in New Delhi. The Indian minister and veteran newspaper editor announced his resignation, Oct. 17, 2018, while still insisting that the accusations of sexual harassment are false. VOA

Reported crimes up 80 percent

Indian government data shows reported cases of crime against women rose by more than 80 percent between 2007 and 2016.

The fatal gang rape of a young woman on a bus in New Delhi in 2012 put the spotlight on the dangers women face in India’s public spaces.

The incident spurred Supreet Singh of charity Red Dot Foundation to create the SafeCity app that encourages women across 11 Indian cities to report harassment and flag hotspots.

“We want to bridge the gap between the ground reality of harassment in public spaces and what is actually being reported,” said Singh, a speaker at the Thomson Reuters Foundation’s annual Trust Conference on Thursday.

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Students and teachers of Jawaharlal Nehru University participate in a protest demanding suspension of a professor accused of sexual harassment, in New Delhi. VOA

The aim is to take the spotlight off the victim and focus on the areas where crimes are committed so action can be taken.

Dimly lit lanes, crowded public transport, paths leading to community toilets, basements, parking lots and parks are places where Indian women feel most vulnerable, campaigners say.

Stigma attached to sexual harassment and an insensitive police reporting mechanism result in many cases going unreported, rights campaigners say.

Apps are promising

But apps like SafeCity, My Safetipin and Himmat (courage) promise anonymity to women reporting crimes and share data collected through the app with government agencies such as the police, municipal corporations and the transport department.

Students and teachers of Jawaharlal Nehru University participate in a protest demanding suspension of a professor accused of sexual harassment, in New Delhi
People hold placards at a rally condemning the rapes of two girls, aged 8 and 11, in Ahmedabad, India. VOA

“The data has helped in many small ways,” said Singh of the Red Dot Foundation. “From getting the police to increase patrolling in an area prone to ‘eve-teasing’ to getting authorities to increase street lighting in dark alleys, the app is bringing change.”

Also Read: Women And Girls In Poor Countries Are Using Contraceptives More: Report

Police in many Indian cities, including New Delhi, Gurgaon and Chandigarh, are also encouraging women to use apps to register complaints, promising prompt action.

“Safety apps are another such strategy that could be applied by women but I worry that by giving these apps, everyone else, most importantly the state, should not abdicate its responsibility towards public safety,” Khan said. (VOA)