November 1, 2016: At times, we are under a false illusion that we are going to like almost everyone we interact with. In reality, that’s not how it works!
It’s inevitable you might dislike people for some reason or the other. And, it is important to deal with it in the right manner. Different people tackle it in a different way. Some would like to go on and argue with them or bang their heads to make the other person understand their point of view when it’s a sheer waste of time as he/she is not even bothered to listen to you.
But, people who are smart and mature, they understand other’s perspectives and deal with it in a unique way:
They accept the fact that they are not really going to like everyone
First and foremost, they accept the fact that they are not going to like everyone in their life. They also accept the fact that not everyone will like them as well, and this is how it works.
It is obvious that the people we don’t like are intrinsically bad human beings. It is just that they have values or opinions which are different from ours.
They do not ignore or dismiss the people they don’t like, they simply bear with them
Being around with the people you don’t like is difficult; you may cringe at their constant criticism or grit your teeth at their lousy jokes. Smart people bear with them no matter how difficult that is.
The best way to deal with people you don’t like is to remember that you are not that perfect either, yet there are people who tolerate you.
They focus on themselves
When people annoy you, it’s important to handle your frustration. Sometimes, what we don’t like in other people is often what we don’t like in ourselves. Maybe they are just pushing the button.
Matured people focus on themselves and calm themselves down in such situations.
They pause and get a grip on their adrenaline pump
When situations seem to go out of control, mature people pause, take a deep breath, and go to the intellectual part of their brain, to avoid arguments.
If everything else fails, smart and mature people allow the space between themselves and those they dislike. They simply excuse themselves and go on their way.
With a bit of distance and empathy, you may be able to even interact both with those people you dislike in a calm and composed manner.
The first and foremost step to minimize negativity is to acknowledge its presence
Negative thoughts must be replaced with positive ones
We must not let negative energy take control of our lives
New Delhi, July 19, 2017: Negative energy can take the form of a feeling or a thought that can make us feel that we can’t break free and we’re in a fix. When we say ‘soul’ is an energy then it can be said that the thoughts we create, be it positive or negative- has certain energy or life. One of the factors that contribute to negative energy is fear- this includes both conscious and unconscious fear. This article of health and healthy thoughts will guide you to learn how to identify it, when it makes an attempt to intrude your life and how to beat it by strengthening your thoughts.
One shouldn’t permit any of the following 6 negative energies to obstruct one’s life:
STRESS AND ANXIETY
A strong correlation exists between mental health and stress. If the negative energy of anxiety is allowed to control one’s life, it will hold them back from achieving various things in life. The most troublesome problem is the tendency to ignore anxiety symptoms and pushing them aside. It will only increase the negative energy present in your life in the long run. Most adults do have some amount of stress present in their life and this spreads negative energy even more.
Fortunately, there are ways to relieve such problems using relaxation exercice and techniques. It is hard to overcome stress, nervousness, and fear, but they can be worked upon with the help of a therapist who can teach us how to control of one’s emotions.
BAD MOODS AND DEPRESSION
Having depressive moods constantly has an adverse effect on your physical and mental well-being. Bad moods can actually intervene your ability to think in a clear manner. It is essential to face your emotions as it can help you identify when you are feeling depressed and comprehend how to control it. First and foremost, take out a couple of minutes for breathing and reflecting. Breathing exercises and meditation will calm your mind down and body and will stop you from burying down your feelings. Pinpoint the cause of negativity, and take an appropriate action.
People that do not make an effort to minimize the negative energy surrounding them suffer problems in maintaining lasting relationships. Socializing with other people may feel tiring when you are constantly in a bad mood. When you think you are being dominated by negative energy, take out some time for yourself. Additionally, you can also tell a trustworthy friend about what your problem is. Good and meaningful communication, as well as active listening, are some of the ways to get rid of it.
It has been told to us that complaining cannot solve the situation in any way. Despite this, most of the people complain constantly to tackle negative energy. Rather, it becomes a hurdle to overcome the situation and invites toxic energy. A person who complains about mostly everything will eventually push away their loved ones.
If you are angry and upset about a situation, minimize complaining, stop overthinking and focus on remaining positive.
These can be easily identified, as this occurs when you arrive at a certain place and you start to feel low, drained, irritated or tired. This can be due to negative vibes that you feel from this space, for instance, your work place, or your own house. When you find yourself in these negative spaces, close your eyes and take a deep breath. Identify what is causing the negativity in this space, and work to remove it.
There are various bodily reactions to negativity, such as lack of sleep, muscle pains, and headaches caused by tension. It might make you feel nervous, frustrated, or sad. Practicing relaxation techniques, doing something that you find enjoyable, and reducing stress will relieve you from this negative energy to some extent. Taking care of your body in a proper manner by exercising regularly and following a good diet will also help eliminate the negative energy get you in any physical manner.
CLEARING NEGATIVE ENERGY
It might not be easy to eliminate negative energy from your life. You can clear out negative energy by first taking responsibility for your feelings, and not blaming someone else.
Next, learn to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. This will take practice, efforts, dedication and requires you to make the choice that you want to minimize negative energy daily. Gain the courage to acknowledge that you create your life experience.
Nobody wants negative energy to pervade their lives, yet many of us permit it. Incorporating some changes within will enable us to quickly see positive changes in our lives.
-prepared by Harsimran Kaur of NewsGram. Twitter @Hkaur1025