November 1, 2016: At times, we are under a false illusion that we are going to like almost everyone we interact with. In reality, that’s not how it works!
It’s inevitable you might dislike people for some reason or the other. And, it is important to deal with it in the right manner. Different people tackle it in a different way. Some would like to go on and argue with them or bang their heads to make the other person understand their point of view when it’s a sheer waste of time as he/she is not even bothered to listen to you.
But, people who are smart and mature, they understand other’s perspectives and deal with it in a unique way:
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They accept the fact that they are not really going to like everyone
First and foremost, they accept the fact that they are not going to like everyone in their life. They also accept the fact that not everyone will like them as well, and this is how it works.
It is obvious that the people we don’t like are intrinsically bad human beings. It is just that they have values or opinions which are different from ours.
They do not ignore or dismiss the people they don’t like, they simply bear with them
Being around with the people you don’t like is difficult; you may cringe at their constant criticism or grit your teeth at their lousy jokes. Smart people bear with them no matter how difficult that is.
The best way to deal with people you don’t like is to remember that you are not that perfect either, yet there are people who tolerate you.
They focus on themselves
When people annoy you, it’s important to handle your frustration. Sometimes, what we don’t like in other people is often what we don’t like in ourselves. Maybe they are just pushing the button.
Matured people focus on themselves and calm themselves down in such situations.
They pause and get a grip on their adrenaline pump
When situations seem to go out of control, mature people pause, take a deep breath, and go to the intellectual part of their brain, to avoid arguments.
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They allow the necessary space between them
If everything else fails, smart and mature people allow the space between themselves and those they dislike. They simply excuse themselves and go on their way.
With a bit of distance and empathy, you may be able to even interact both with those people you dislike in a calm and composed manner.
– by Pinaz Kazi of NewsGram. Twitter: @PinazKazi