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“I Can’t Do Sexy” : Know it, Show it and Own it

Taking pride in being who you are and celebrating your individuality is the rarest of the rare things.

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April 22, 2017:

How many of us are in a haste to follow the crazy fad and keeping up with being sensuous?

Well, in reality, we all are.

“I can’t do sexy” is an amusingly self-deprecating video where Sofia Ashraf, singer and featured artist of the musical video blatantly accepts that she is fit to overtake any role except for appearing sexy.


The lyrics of the video are gripping and can make anyone mull over the keynote idea propagated by the lyricist Sofia Ashraf.

“I am unsexy and I know it, I show it and I own it”

The contemplation sets in motion with a reality check on the redundant attempts to give an impression of being sexy. We tend to submerge our peculiar individuality into fancy-pants not realizing what we ought to lose in the exorbitant route.

Taking pride in being who you are and celebrating your individuality is the rarest of the rare things.

What may happen if you fail to meet the standards of Sexy?

Girls like to reiterate this question from time to time and develop the hysterics just to validate their existence by men. When a man says “You will need a makeover to look hot”, it intimates that men prefer hot and sexy women more than the unsexy (undifferentiated) versions.

The growing madness to look sexy and yearning for acceptance cripple one’s stance in the crowd. It is very important to know that whether – ‘sexy or unsexy’, you must show it and own it unashamedly.

Let’s redefine beauty… 

According to the Merriam-Webster, “beauty is the qualities in a person or a thing that give pleasure to the senses or the mind”.

Italicize that everything that gives pleasure to the senses should be owned by the self and not defined by anyone else. If you can savor your own attributes, nobody has the power to walk over you.

Something which is real will always be flawed and imperfect. Nevertheless, it is the unnatural form of beauty which we call flawless.

By Naina Mishra of Newsgram, Twitter: Nainamishr94

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Fight For Gender Equality Faces Resistance From The United Nations: Study

Guterres, the former prime minister of Portugal, was sworn in December 2016 after a campaign in which many countries urged selection of a woman.

U.N. Secretary-General Antonio Guterres addresses delegates during the opening session of a UN Migration Conference in Marrakech, Morocco, Dec.10, 2018. VOA

U.N. Secretary-General Antonio Guterres has inched up slightly in the eyes of women’s groups who said on Wednesday he has delivered on some promises to make the global organization a feminist institution but faces a major backlash and resistance.

The Feminist U.N. Campaign, a coalition of women’s rights groups, advocates and U.N. staff, gave him a grade of B-, up from the C+ it gave him a year ago.

The coalition launched its report card after the secretary-general said he would be a feminist leader when he took office two years ago.

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UN Secretary-General Antonio Guterres addresses during the opening of COP24 UN Climate Change Conference 2018 in Katowice, Poland, Dec. 3, 2018. VOA

Global movement

In that time, the #MeToo campaign against sexual harassment and assault has become a global movement.

Guterres has promoted women’s rights and equality publicly, sought gender parity in leadership and rolled out efforts against sexual harassment and gender-based violence, the report said.

But an internal backlash and bureaucracy threaten his progress. His efforts to make structural changes have met “considerable resistance” from staff and member states that resist women’s rights, it said.

Lyric Thompson, an author of the report and a director at the Washington-based International Center for Research on Women, said she thinks Guterres has “a genuine intent and interest in being a champion” of women’s rights.

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People carrying signs join hundreds of demonstrators in the Women’s March in downtown Los Angeles, Jan. 20, 2018. VOA

“The question is can he do everything in his power to be a feminist leader who enables that transformation and who makes it the new normal?” she said to the Thomson Reuters Foundation. The U.N. is “years away” from being a feminist institution, and attitudes of immunity and privilege operate to scuttle equality efforts, she said.

Just last week, a U.N. survey showed one third of its staff and contractors experienced sexual harassment in the past two years.

More than 30,000 people answered the survey, complaining of offensive jokes, remarks and sexual stories and of being touched in ways that made them uncomfortable.

The U.N. has tried to increase transparency and strengthen how it deals with such accusations over the past few years after a string of sexual exploitation and abuse accusations against U.N. peacekeepers in Africa.

The head of the U.N. agency for HIV and AIDS is stepping down in June, six months before his term ends, after an independent panel said his “defective leadership” tolerated “a culture of harassment, including sexual harassment, bullying, and abuse of power.”

Her Royal Highness Crown Princess Mary of Denmark, center, address the human rights conference titled “Protecting Health Rights of Women and Girls Affected by Conflict,” during the U.N General Assembly, Sept. 24, 2018 at U.N. headquarters. VOA

‘Considerable progress’

The secretary-general’s office said it was pleased that the women’s groups saw improvement in Guterres’ handling of gender issues and agreed that more needs to be dome.

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“At the same time, we believe the secretary-general has achieved considerable progress within the complex U.N. system at achieving real reforms to make the U.N. a better workplace for women and men alike,” his office said.

Guterres, the former prime minister of Portugal, was sworn in December 2016 after a campaign in which many countries urged selection of a woman. The U.N. has not been headed by a woman since its creation in 1945. (VOA)