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“I Can’t Do Sexy” : Know it, Show it and Own it

Taking pride in being who you are and celebrating your individuality is the rarest of the rare things.

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April 22, 2017:

How many of us are in a haste to follow the crazy fad and keeping up with being sensuous?

Well, in reality, we all are.

“I can’t do sexy” is an amusingly self-deprecating video where Sofia Ashraf, singer and featured artist of the musical video blatantly accepts that she is fit to overtake any role except for appearing sexy.


The lyrics of the video are gripping and can make anyone mull over the keynote idea propagated by the lyricist Sofia Ashraf.

“I am unsexy and I know it, I show it and I own it”

The contemplation sets in motion with a reality check on the redundant attempts to give an impression of being sexy. We tend to submerge our peculiar individuality into fancy-pants not realizing what we ought to lose in the exorbitant route.

Taking pride in being who you are and celebrating your individuality is the rarest of the rare things.

What may happen if you fail to meet the standards of Sexy?

Girls like to reiterate this question from time to time and develop the hysterics just to validate their existence by men. When a man says “You will need a makeover to look hot”, it intimates that men prefer hot and sexy women more than the unsexy (undifferentiated) versions.

The growing madness to look sexy and yearning for acceptance cripple one’s stance in the crowd. It is very important to know that whether – ‘sexy or unsexy’, you must show it and own it unashamedly.

Let’s redefine beauty… 

According to the Merriam-Webster, “beauty is the qualities in a person or a thing that give pleasure to the senses or the mind”.

Italicize that everything that gives pleasure to the senses should be owned by the self and not defined by anyone else. If you can savor your own attributes, nobody has the power to walk over you.

Something which is real will always be flawed and imperfect. Nevertheless, it is the unnatural form of beauty which we call flawless.

By Naina Mishra of Newsgram, Twitter: Nainamishr94

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101 years old Banaras Hindu University Appoints its First Female Chief Proctor Royana Singh

Singh was designated by Banaras Hindu University Vice Chancellor Girish Chandra Tripathi after ON Singh surrendered as the chief proctor on grounds of "moral responsibility" for the lathicharge on dissenting students

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September 29, 2017 : The Banaras Hindu University (BHU) has been facing significant backlash for the past few days, brought under scanner for victim-shaming a female student, who was professedly molested on the university campus a week ago. The 101 years old University made history on September 28 by appointing a female chief proctor, in a first of its kind move.

Professor Royana Singh, a professor at the anatomy department of BHU’s Institute of Medical Science, is the first woman in varsity’s history to hold the post and also heads the women grievance cell of the university.

Speaking to The Times of India, Royanna highlighted how dressing should be about comfort, and that is a decision that should be left to the girls. She said,

Putting a dressing restriction on girls would be like imposing it on myself. You start your day at 6 am and end at 10:30 pm, and if you still can’t wear what you feel comfortable in, then it is a shame in this era.

Born in France, Royana Singh, who seems pretty liberal in her outlooks, believes that women are naturally more comfortable in sharing things with fellow females. Hence, she plans to recruit and sensitize female guards to ensure safety standards are maintained in the future.

Girls can move anywhere and at any time. As a chairperson of grievance cell at the Banaras Hindu University until recently, I have taken up such issues and addressed them to restore the dignity of women. We will sensitize guards and wardens on these sensitive topics.

Singh was designated by Banaras Hindu University Vice Chancellor Girish Chandra Tripathi after ON Singh surrendered as the chief proctor on grounds of “moral responsibility” for the lathicharge on dissenting students. However, students largely believe ON Singh was made a mere scapegoat and the BHU Vice Chancellor Tripathi should resign.

Despite his multiple clarifications to suppress the issue, vice-chancellor Tripathi made some dubious remarks as the issue gained heat, purportedly trivializing the attack occurrence.

According to a report by First Post, Tripathi was cited as saying, “Boys will be boys,” and “Forget about what happened. Why don’t you stop stepping out after 6 pm if you dislike such things? You are a girl, don’t try to become a boy (by stepping out after sunset).”

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The vice chancellor additionally defended the strict curfew timings in the ladies’ hostel and alleged gender bias by saying that the security of young ladies and young men can never be at standard.

Female students at Banaras Hindu University have been challenging sexual bias in prevalent rules at the campus, and requesting round-the-clock security and making security staff responsible for untoward occurrences focusing on ladies. Additionally, they have also raised demands for CCTV arrangements, legitimate checking at the entryways, and setting up of a gender sensitization board.