“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive” – Dalai Lama
New Delhi, Sept 14, 2016: Indeed humanity has failed to survive yet again in Capital State, Delhi. 37-year-old Chhote Lal who runs a tea shop had to roam around in the streets of Delhi in an ambulance for four hours with his wife’s dead body before the cremation. Not just that, even the landlord allegedly did not allow to keep it at his rented accommodation in Karkardooma village in east Delhi.
Not just that, even the landlord allegedly did not allow to keep it at his rented accommodation in Karkardooma village in east Delhi. Chhote Lal had admitted his 35-year-old wife, Anju in Hedgewar Hospital, 2-3 days back when she was complaining of high fever, mentioned the PTI reports.
She took her last breath yesterday in a hospital. The police suspect this to be a case of ‘chikungunya’. Later that night, when grieving husband took his wife’s body to his rented house which is in Karkardooma, his landlord too, has refused to keep the body in the house. Finding no way out of this situation, he then decided to keep the body in the lane where his home is situated, but the neighbours had objected to that as well.
Having lost all hopes, he took the body back to the hospital where he was told that the authorities cannot keep the body.
Lal’s landlord, Babloo told the police that Lal lives on the third floor of the building and it is not well ventilated so there was a possibility that the body might begin to decay in the cramped space. However, Babloo has helped Lal by giving him Rs. 2000 and arranging him an AC ambulance to preserve the body.
With no option left, Lal went around the streets of Delhi with his wife’s body in an ambulance for almost four hours until he was spotted by the police staff near the Cross River Mall. On knowing about the whole matter, the staff called up Bhaswar Singh, a businessman residing in the area, around 12:30 a.m.
Later, Singh helped Lal by letting him keep the body at his home overnight. “Some police staff and Singh’s staff helped Lal perform the last rites of his wife who was cremated today morning,” said Lal.
– prepared by Enakshi Roy Chowdhury of Newsgram. Twitter: enakshirc58
You read with a mixture of alarm and scepticism, the poll report by the London-based Thomson Reuters Foundation that India is the most dangerous country in the world for women, beating Afghanistan, Syria, Somalia, Saudi Arabia and Pakistan.
According to reports, a total of 548 global experts on women’s issues — 43 of them from India — were asked about risks faced by women in six areas: healthcare, access to economic resources and discrimination, customary practices, sexual violence, nonsexual violence, and human trafficking. And shockingly, India comes out as the worst!
We see women progressing in every field in India, but, there is also the increasing violence against women and young girls reported every day; not long ago, female tourists felt safe in India; but now, women travelling solo are constantly targeted. Everyday there are reports of the rapes and murders of minor girls, often accompanied by unimaginable torture and mutilation.
There has been outrage in India, and also holes punctured in the survey that has such a small number of respondents, but can we really take an ostrich approach to the condition of women? Even as education and healthcare improve for women — at least in metro cities — the contempt for women is socially and culturally ingrained in the Indian psyche. In a city like Mumbai considered progressive and relatively safe for women, the girl child is unwanted even by many educated and wealthy families. In spite of laws being in place, female foeticide and infanticide is rampant, to the extent that there are large territories where there are no girl children and brides for the men have to be ‘imported’ from other states. As dowry murders and rapes rise, the more unwanted the girl child becomes. The fact is that India’s gender ratio is deplorable.
And if the male child is valued over the girl child, he grows up believing that he is special and if he is thwarted in any way, he can resort to violence. In spite of education and exposure to progressive ideas, in the case of rape or sexual violence, the tendency to blame and shame the victim persists.
To give just one small example, in the West, accusations of sexual harassment resulted in united shunning of a man as powerful as Harvey Weinstein and many others in the wake of the #MeToo movement, that helped many women speak out about their experiences.
In India, Malayalam actor Dileep, who has been accused in the abduction and rape of an actress, and was boycotted by the Association of Malayalam Movie Artistes (AMMA), was recently reinstated. This caused shock and dismay among women in the film industry.
A statement by a group of over 150 women film practitioners says it like it is, “A body that is meant to represent artistes of the Malayalam movie industry showed complete disregard for its own member who is the victim of this gross crime. Even before the case has reached its conclusion, AMMA has chosen to validate a person accused of a very serious crime against a colleague. We condemn this cavalier attitude by artistes against women artistes who are working alongside them. There is misogyny and gender discrimination embedded in this action.
“We admired and supported the Women in Cinema Collective that was formed by women film artistes in Kerala in the aftermath of the abduction and molestation of a colleague, a top star in the industry. We applaud the WCC members who have walked out of AMMA to protest the chairman’s invitation to reinstate the accused. We pledge our continued support to the Women in Cinema Collective who are blazing a trail to battle sexism in the film industry.
“Cinema is an art form that can challenge deeply entrenched violence and discrimination in society. It is distressing to see an industry that stands amongst the best in the country and has even made a mark in world cinema choose to shy away from using their position and their medium responsibly at this important moment. Today, women form a significant part of the film and media industries, we reject any attempt at silencing us and making us invisible.”
The preference for male children has had some unexpected ramifications. In a working paper published by the American non-profit, National Bureau of Economic Research, by Northwestern University’s Seema Jayachandran and Harvard University’s Rohini Pande (quoted in Quartz Media), finds that stunting in Indian children could also be blamed on the cultural preference for sons.
“In India, on average, the first child — if he is a son — doesn’t suffer from stunting. But, if the first — and so the eldest — child of the family is a girl, she suffers from a height deficit. And, then, if the second child is a boy, and hence the eldest son of the family, he will not be stunted. This happens because of an unequal allocation of resources to the first child”.
According to the report, “When Jayachandran and Pande compared India and Africa results through this lens, they found that the Indian first and eldest son tends to be taller than an African firstborn. If the eldest child of the family is a girl, and a son is born next, the son will still be taller in India than Africa. For girls, however, the India-Africa height deficit is large. It is the largest for daughters with no older brothers, probably because repeated attempts to have a son takes a beating on the growth of the girls.”
In spite of all the Beti Padhao, Beti Bachao rhetoric, the required shift in the male-centric attitude towards a more egalitarian one is simply not happening; or, it is a case of one step forward, two steps backward. The Thomson Reuters Foundation report may be unfair and skewed, but being known as the rape capital of the world does nothing to improve the image of India in the world or even in its own eyes. (IANS)