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By Naughtie-McCourtie Rebecca

Romania is the land of the lost gentleman! OH, and the Polish were right to have arrested me…

One thing at a time though… first thing is first… Romania!

Just when I was starting to think that the allusive figure known as ‘the gentleman’ was nothing more than a mythological creature, I met the modern day Romanian man… or should I say men! Real men! Men that you only ever read about in fairytales… men that fit the bill as being masculine, manly, well-mannered and down right dapper! Man as a man should be! Devoid of the fact that I generally like my men brown and hairy, and certainly the average Romanian man fits this bill, it is the disposition of the general male populous in Romania that strikes me as being classically romantic. Ladies, Romania is where it is AT!

I believe the modern-day Western male is going through a drastic feminization process, whereby gender etiquette of the past is being exchanged for male cosmetics, fashion (tight and low-cut fashion), hair-obsession paraphernalia and basically anything and everything that was once purely associated with being ‘feminine’.

I can only assume that the historically recent (and continual) fight for gender equality in the West has resulted in the ‘male’ coming up confused about his place in society. This has seemingly started a revolution against the traditionally defined the roles of men and women. If women want equality then it would appear we must sacrifice chivalry. Women actively participating in the public realm has killed the gentleman and given birth to the modern-day dandy.

How does this play towards equality, though when statistics still indicate that women do the majority of domestic work in a household? Essentially, men are abdicating from their role as ‘masculine protector/provider’, however women are not only retaining their role as ‘caregiver’,but also assuming that of ‘protector/ provider’.

Women are bringing home the bacon and cooking it… and also doing all the washing up afterwards. How is this fair? When woman works, cooks, cleans and looks after you, one would think you could open the bloody door for her! Rarely in the West does this occur.

I have lived in Australia, New Zealand and England and traveled extensively throughout Continental Europe, and let me tell you, chivalry is a rarity. To highlight this trend, I have an example whereby on one occasion I was waiting at a bus stop in the rain (in a country I will not name). When the bus pulled up I was almost bowled over by the young man waiting with me. Evidently eager to get out of the rain and save his heavily gelled locks from the wrath of the rain-drop, I was literally shoved to the side in his desperation.

Should he have given way to me out of traditionalism? Was the saving of my hair more important than his? As a woman that faces every day social expectations as to the way I should aesthetically appear in order to get the ideological ‘attractive’ tick of approval, would I be judged more harshly with hair looking like a wet dog? Or is the modern-day male also subject to this social scrutiny?

If so, has the game of chivalry turned into a game of ‘survival of the fittest’, whereby men and women are equally judged by their appearance? Are we competing against each other for the title of beauty queen? These are the questions that now arise in the modern-day Western world. Perhaps when the men are also gazing into the mirror and asking: ‘who is the fairest of them all?’ chivalry cannot exist. It would be like asking one tennis player to keep one hand behind their back, while the other has use of both. It wouldn’t be fair! Dog-eat-dog world appears to be the new norm!

Mind you, life is a comparative measure, and I by no means wish to suggest that ALL men in the West are manner-less, there are worse things that women could be subjected to. I did have an Egyptian boyfriend once, he was ok on the manners front, but then again he compensated with some pretty dogmatic and degrading cultural expectations that I was just NOT willing to conform to. I would rather have a door slammed in my face as opposed to a d*ck up my arse any day! At least with chivalry or lack thereof in the West, a woman can save herself! So maybe the answer is accepting change in light of a comparison to that which has not changed and probably never will.

Back to Romania, when I came here I was expecting something similar to my initial expectations of Poland. I was expecting sadness, gloominess, coldness, depression, and just like Poland, I was pleasantly surprised. I arrived on a very hot and sunny day to happiness, brightness and all-round pleasantness. The country is amazing! Despite their less than fantastic economic situation, everyone seems happy. Everyone I came across was smiling and as mentioned above, the manners these people have are overwhelmingly classic and dapper in their demeanor.

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Bucharest is like a pinball machine, with its night lighted criss-cross of narrow old alleyways and its outer new city curved streets that encapsulate the grid of the old town. I felt like a pinball buzzing up, down and across the streets lined with trendy cafes, bars and boutiques.

Everything is set within the rustically old and ornate buildings that serve as whispers to the beauty of the past. The elaborate stone awnings and artistically crooked weather worn doorways are a reminder of the word sublime. Bucharest is certainly a place where the past meets the present in the most stylish and fashionable way. I have literally spent my days in this city winding myself around the uneven stone-slabbed streets. Forget the dandy-esque notion of cute Continental European cobblestone alleyways, this city is bold, masculine and handsome in its exterior.

Whoever defined Paris as the ‘IT’ city had clearly never been to Bucharest. These people actually smile, are friendly and exhibit a genuine modesty and appreciation for your tourism. It’s a city where young women are clearly participating in the work force, but young men are still holding the doors open. From the taxi driver who carried my bags to the entrance of the hotel, to the countless men who have stopped in their steps to allow me through a door first… right down to the young teenage lad who waited and held the door open for me in a shop… the men here are getting it right! Classic chivalry still reigns the day!

Moving onto Poland. While indulging in the delights of Bucharest, I started thinking about my whole Poland saga. I had spoken to a few people who told me that my story just didn’t seem right. I told them that I knew I wasn’t the only person who had been told everything was electronic… but alas there were certain people who were adamant that I had been misinformed.

So I double checked… I double checked and after some running around by the embassy, it was determined that I had, in fact been misinformed. I was shocked! It was so unlike Sweden to make a mistake! Their processes and procedures for just about EVERYTHING in life left no room for error- or so I thought. I guess mistakes are human nature though. It’s not the mistake that defines us, but rather how we resolve it.

In typically efficient Swedish fashion, my issue was resolved at the speed of administrative light. I emailed the Swedish embassy here in Romania, who subsequently communicated with the department of immigration in Sweden, who subsequently advised me to attend the embassy in Romania to rectify the problem and HAY-PRESTO! All this in 24-hours and my ID card issue was resolved.

So I guess this means I have to apologize to Poland. They were right… or kind of right. They were right to question my travelling without an ID card. I did have the visa; I just didn’t have the legal proof on me. So I was lucky, as lucky as could be that they did not deport me. Nonetheless, even though I admit I was in the wrong, I still think the Soviet style interrogation room with my daddy-doppelganger was a bit too much.

If the Maltese let me through their airport with a bottle opener knife in my hand luggage (giving me nothing more than a giggle when I pulled it out of my bag in horror, realizing I had forgotten to pack it in my check-in), then I think the Polish could have been a little less intense. Right is right and wrong is wrong. Role playing crazy Kremlin antics circa Stalin era does not assist an administrative process involving multiple languages. Nonetheless, contrary to my previous assertion that my visa was electronic and Poland should have known this, I stand corrected. So, I am sorry Poland for unknowingly not doing the right thing. Thank you for not deporting me.

Week one in Romania down! Week one with no vampire encounters. We’ll see what Transylvania brings… mwahahahahah!

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There are even reports of human and extraterrestrial meetings in the Hoia-Baciu forest. Others have also claimed the presence of a monster in the nearby Lake Tarnita.

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Romania
The official language of the country is Romanian while Albanian and Armenian are some of the recognized regional languages.

Romania is a sovereign country in southeastern Europe that is experiencing an increasing trend in tourism. Bucharest is the capital and largest city in the country with the greatest number of visitors annually. The official language of the country is Romanian while Albanian and Armenian are some of the recognized regional languages.

The Romans are the predominant ethnic group and make up 88.9% of the total population. By 2011, the country was very urbanized with 54% of the population living in urban areas, but most moved to the countryside. In this article, we will discuss some of the major cities in Romania that you can visit while exploring this historic place.

Bucharest

Bucharest
At present, the city has an estimated population of 1.8 million inhabitants. The quality of life in Bucharest is not appealing.

Bucharest is the largest city in Romania and is the country’s capital, culture, industry and financial center. The city has increasingly become popular among international visitors for low prices and amazing Bucharest bachelor weekend parties. Some of the old buildings in the city center were severely damaged by war, earthquakes and Nicolae Ceausescu’s systemization program. It has been an economic and industrial boom in the city in the past.

At present, the city has an estimated population of 1.8 million inhabitants. The quality of life in Bucharest is not appealing. Living conditions have deteriorated over time and ranked 108th in 2009 in 235 cities. Notable landmarks in the city include; Triumphal arch, carousel bookstore, and Ion Luca Carnegie charter.

Constanta

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The most important economic activities are tourism, industrialization, and fishing. In the first half of 2008, 3,144 companies were established in the city.

Constanta is the oldest city inhabited in the country after being formed in 600 BC. It has a population of 283,872 people making it the fifth largest city in the country by population. Constanta is a coastal city and receives a large number of tourists annually. In the 1930s during the inter-war, the city was the country’s commercial hub.

Like many coastal cities, Constanta is experiencing one of the warmest temperatures in the country. The most important economic activities are tourism, industrialization, and fishing. In the first half of 2008, 3,144 companies were established in the city. The most notable landmarks in the city are; the genuine lighthouse, the Carol 1 mosque, the house with lions, the cathedral of saints and the ottoman hunting mosque.

Cluj-Napoca

Cluj
The state’s Matthias Corvinus and Central Park fountain are some of the city’s attractions. There are a large number of visitors in the city with a majority of those coming on a day visit.

Ranking third among the largest cities in Romania, called Cluj-Napoca commonly known as Cluj. It was founded in 1213 and is the second most popular city in the country. The city is surrounded by forests and grasslands with rare species such as a Venus slipper. There are animals such as bears, mammals, foxes, rabbits, and squirrels in the Faget and Hoia nearby forests.

There are even reports of human and extraterrestrial meetings in the Hoia-Baciu forest. Others have also claimed the presence of a monster in the nearby Lake Tarnita. There are many large castles in the surrounding countryside surrounded by medieval families living in the city. The state’s Matthias Corvinus and Central Park fountain are some of the city’s attractions. There are a large number of visitors in the city with a majority of those coming on a day visit.

Iași

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The fourth largest city in Romania is home to some of the oldest churches and monasteries dating back more than five hundred years ago.

This city is one of the cultural capitals of Romania and is a symbol of Romanian history. It is home to the country’s oldest university and the first technical school. It is an important education and research center in Romania and holds more than 60,000 students in five public universities.

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The fourth largest city in Romania is home to some of the oldest churches and monasteries dating back more than five hundred years ago. Significant buildings in the city include; Central Hall Square, Cuza Place, Dosoftei House, and Razvan Palace.