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Self Improvement: 10 Ways to Improve your Personality

Personality is something that you can always improve on, but that doesn't mean you have to completely change yourself

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Improve your personality with these easy tips
Humans are capable of shaping their own personality. Pixabay
  • Personality is a pattern of thinking and feeling that humans are capable of shaping according to their wishes
  • The process of improving one’s personality demands dedication and constant intentional behavior 
  • Here are 10 tips that may help you improve your personality 
Personality is to a man what perfume is to a flower.” Charles M. Schwab

New Delhi, August 21, 2017: Personality is not something we are born with, but something that we advance over a period of time. A pattern of thinking and feeling that it is, we humans are capable of shaping it the way we like, however, the process demands dedication and constant intentional behavior, so after a point of time, you don’t have to try anymore, as it becomes a part of your nature. To have a good personality, apparently, is to be likable and interesting. If you are seeking personality development, Here are 10 tips to get you there.

Identify your traits: Now that you’ve decided to work on improving your personality, firstly you need to make a list of what all you need to eliminate from or inculcate in your existing personality. Basically, Know your strengths and weaknesses and work on them.

Apologize when wrong: It’s not that hard to apologize when you’re wrong, and even if it is, let me tell you a secret, It is not going to make you any smaller, it always works in your favor instead.

Optimism for good: Nobody likes to be surrounded by negativity. If you feel like you own some of it, throw it away without any delay, and trust me, you would see the change, both in yourself and people’s conduct towards you.

Appreciate others: Complimenting someone is no hard nut to crack. Bestow compliments like you bestow ‘hellos’. It not only makes someone else’s day, but make you develop a charming personality as well.

Embrace your insecurities: It’s ok to have insecurities, everybody has it, but the power is not in feeding them, but dealing with them. They are not flaws, they are what make you who you are, unique and amazing.

Be polite: Did you ever see a person screaming at the waiter, and thought to yourself, “how cute!”? No? Neither did I. Politeness is a quality we hardly see in people these days, but the quality we must all get on well, in order to have that great personality that everyone talks about.

Start ignoring ignorance: Be curious. Explore. Experience. You certainly cannot know everything, but that shouldn’t stop you from trying. Awareness is important, and also attractive!

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Be flexible: Rigidity is the root problem of most, no wait, all the arguments that we have today. That’s true that we can’t always agree with a person, but we can still give the other person’s opinion a try, right? If you still don’t agree, then it’s alright, the sun is not going to stop rising and the world is definitely not ending. You don’t have to impose what you think on others. Two people can have different opinions, learn to live with it.

Be a good listener: The world is well equipped with talkers, but to be a Good listener is a real task. Listening to somebody makes the other person feel important. It is a skill that most people admire, and a trait that one must try to instill in their personality.

But the most important of all- 

Be yourself: Personality is something that you can always improve on, but that doesn’t mean you have to completely change yourself. You don’t have to try too hard to be something you are not. Pretense is a real personality killer! You only have to improve, upgrade, make sure you do not lose your essence in the process because that is what gives you a unique personality of your own.

-by Samiksha Goel of NewsGram. Twitter @goel_samiksha

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Our genes responsible for the way we act?

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New Delhi: As Indians have the issues of intolerance and violence, genetic experts are researching on this hoary discussion, whether Indian genes can influence people towards anti-social behaviour in the society.

Again we are back on the same debate nurture versus nature.

The answer may not be easy to find, but some experts say that the monoamine oxidase A or MAOA gene involved the parameter of emotions and behaviour and can predispose certain humans towards anti-social behaviour if they have had adverse childhood experiences.

Many studies in the past have linked genes with offensive behaviour, but the fallouts have often been unpredictable. Recently a study by researchers in Montreal, Canada, though, found that genetics may indeed play a key role in violent behaviour.

The team from the University of Montreal found that certain polymorphism (change of form) of MAOA gene may disrupt the regulation of emotions and behavioural inhibition in the brain.

“The study found that men with a less frequent variant of the MAOA gene (approximately 30 percent of them) were at a higher risk of exhibiting anti-social behaviour in adolescence and in early adulthood compared to those without this variant, but who also have been exposed to violence as children,” informs Dr Manish Jain, senior consultant (psychiatrist) from BLK Super Speciality Hospital in the capital.

“It implies that even when exposed to the same environment some may develop anti-social traits based on their genetics while others may not,” Dr Jain told reporters.

According to Dr Sameer Malhotra, director (mental health and behavioural sciences) at Max Super Specialty Hospital, genes and environment live the individual lives both effects the personality profile of an individual.

So are we any nearer to a clear-cut answer?

“Through genes, one inherits vulnerability factor. Environmental factors in conjunction with the vulnerability can influence behaviour. Anti-social behaviour is linked to conduct disorder in childhood. At times, association with family history of alcoholism or drug abuse and aggression are also observed,” Dr Malhotra said.

“High levels of neurotransmitter dopamine that is involved in the regulation of emotions and problems in the frontal brain cortex are also reported in such people,” he adds.

Other experts feel that people who are victims themselves or have witnessed violence in childhood are more likely to have anti-social tendencies as teenagers and adults.

“The impact on personality would depend on overall environment and positive experiences and the resolution of past experiences, but statically, this statement would be correct that there would be more chances of aggressive tendencies in the absence of support and intervention,” explains Dr Samir Parikh, director, department of mental health and behavioural sciences, Fortis Healthcare.

“There are many social psychological factors which have a significant impact and to say what percentage would be genes would still need more research, though,” he adds.

Dr JC Barnes who is a criminologist from the University of Texas at Dallas found that genes can be a strong predictor of whether someone strays into a life of crime.

The research mainly focusses on whether genes are likely to cause a person to become a life-course persistent offender, which is characterised by anti-social behaviour during childhood that may later progress to violent or serious criminal acts.

“The overarching conclusions were that genetic influences in life-course persistent offending were larger than environmental influences,” says Dr Barnes.

Crime is learned, there is no specific behaviour for it. “But there are likely to be hundreds, if not thousands, of genes that will incrementally increase your likelihood of being involved in a crime even if it only ratchets that probability by one percent,” he points out. “It still is a genetic effect. And it’s still important.”

Although research has not concluded genetic basis for antisocial tendencies, the influence of genetics and environment cannot be ignored.

“The child’s initial behaviours and learning are moulded through parenting and family interaction. The temperament with which the child is born along with parenting behaviour styles influence one another,” explains Dr Shobhana Mittal, consultant psychiatrist at Cosmos Institute of Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences in New Delhi.

Children from broken homes, single parents or from families where there is substance abuse, physical, verbal, emotional or sexual abuse tend to have poor family bonding. Disrupted family atmospheres affect the overall emotional health of the child as well as contribute to the child’s personality and coping abilities.

“With immature coping skills, children at times do not understand how to manage anger, frustration resulting in anger outbursts or aggressive behaviour. This further makes the child vulnerable to external influence from their peers,” elaborates Dr Sunil Mittal, director of Cosmos Institute of Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences (CIMBS), in New Delhi.

“A recent genetic analysis of almost 900 offenders in Finland revealed two genes associated with violent repeat offenders were the MAOA gene and a variant of cadherin 13 (CDH13) gene. Those with these genes were 13 times more likely to have a history of repeated violent behaviour,” Dr Jain told reporters.

Although the role of genes cannot be ignored anymore, the jury may still be out on a definite answer.

But as the experts point out, if a lethal gene is lurking there somewhere, it may make a person a little more prone to act out the bad experiences in life. (IANS)