- Personality is a pattern of thinking and feeling that humans are capable of shaping according to their wishes
- The process of improving one’s personality demands dedication and constant intentional behavior
- Here are 10 tips that may help you improve your personality
“Personality is to a man what perfume is to a flower.” –Charles M. Schwab
New Delhi, August 21, 2017: Personality is not something we are born with, but something that we advance over a period of time. A pattern of thinking and feeling that it is, we humans are capable of shaping it the way we like, however, the process demands dedication and constant intentional behavior, so after a point of time, you don’t have to try anymore, as it becomes a part of your nature. To have a good personality, apparently, is to be likable and interesting. If you are seeking personality development, Here are 10 tips to get you there.
Identify your traits: Now that you’ve decided to work on improving your personality, firstly you need to make a list of what all you need to eliminate from or inculcate in your existing personality. Basically, Know your strengths and weaknesses and work on them.
Apologize when wrong: It’s not that hard to apologize when you’re wrong, and even if it is, let me tell you a secret, It is not going to make you any smaller, it always works in your favor instead.
Optimism for good: Nobody likes to be surrounded by negativity. If you feel like you own some of it, throw it away without any delay, and trust me, you would see the change, both in yourself and people’s conduct towards you.
Appreciate others: Complimenting someone is no hard nut to crack. Bestow compliments like you bestow ‘hellos’. It not only makes someone else’s day, but make you develop a charming personality as well.
Embrace your insecurities: It’s ok to have insecurities, everybody has it, but the power is not in feeding them, but dealing with them. They are not flaws, they are what make you who you are, unique and amazing.
Be polite: Did you ever see a person screaming at the waiter, and thought to yourself, “how cute!”? No? Neither did I. Politeness is a quality we hardly see in people these days, but the quality we must all get on well, in order to have that great personality that everyone talks about.
Start ignoring ignorance: Be curious. Explore. Experience. You certainly cannot know everything, but that shouldn’t stop you from trying. Awareness is important, and also attractive!
Be flexible: Rigidity is the root problem of most, no wait, all the arguments that we have today. That’s true that we can’t always agree with a person, but we can still give the other person’s opinion a try, right? If you still don’t agree, then it’s alright, the sun is not going to stop rising and the world is definitely not ending. You don’t have to impose what you think on others. Two people can have different opinions, learn to live with it.
Be a good listener: The world is well equipped with talkers, but to be a Good listener is a real task. Listening to somebody makes the other person feel important. It is a skill that most people admire, and a trait that one must try to instill in their personality.
But the most important of all-
Be yourself: Personality is something that you can always improve on, but that doesn’t mean you have to completely change yourself. You don’t have to try too hard to be something you are not. Pretense is a real personality killer! You only have to improve, upgrade, make sure you do not lose your essence in the process because that is what gives you a unique personality of your own.
-by Samiksha Goel of NewsGram. Twitter @goel_samiksha