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Have you ever matched with someone online and realised you have no idea what to say to them? Do you worry about setting a bad impression with the first thing you say? In the world of virtual dating, it can be hard to think of ideas to go beyond 'hey' or 'hello', but nothing beats the chemistry of a good conversation to calm the nerves! Your first (virtual) date should be lighthearted and a two-way street. The easiest way to do so is to ask questions that matter to you and check your partner's interest in the same. All in all, don't be afraid to be yourself, after all the aim is to find someone as like-minded (or goofy) as you are.
Having introduced people to their love stories for over two decades from all around the world, dating app OkCupid lists down five conversation starters that will get you and your date talking!
'What's something that you really want to do?'
Being able to uninhibitedly discuss your dreams, goals, and desires on a first date can be a terrific approach to get to know someone better. Your goals don't have to be strictly professional-sharing what you'd like to achieve, whether it's learning to play the guitar or mastering Italian cooking, might help your date gain a better understanding of your life and priorities. Break the ice with your partner and ask what they seek from their life and what they truly wish for. In fact, 34 per cent of daters on the platform find questions around the partners' goals, plans and wishes a good conversation starter.
Your goals don't have to be strictly professional-sharing what you'd like to achieve. | Photo by Markus Winkler on Unsplash
'Dogs or cats?'
Pets too have been perfect conversation starters for millennials; getting to know if your date is a pet parent, their views on adopting pets, and their bond with these furry creatures can reveal interesting insights about their personality while also giving them the opportunity to learn about you. Safe to say, millennial daters in their search for unconditional love, look at the relationships their potential partners have with their furry friends with 31 per cent of daters reveal that pets are an ideal way to start a conversation with their match.
Pets too have been perfect conversation starters for millennials. | Photo by Andrew S on Unsplash
'What's next on your watchlist?'
There's no shortage of streaming services or access to movies, shows, or literature in today's world. With this in mind, discussing TV shows you're watching, recommending must-see movies, and telling your match more about your all-time favourite novels can help keep the conversation flowing while you and your date learn more about each other's personalities and favourite characters. And who knows, this might even lead the way for a virtual movie date or book reading session!
Discussing TV shows you're watching, recommending must-see movies, and telling your match more about your all-time favourite novels can help keep the conversation flowing. | Photo by Charles Deluvio on Unsplash
'What do you want from a relationship?'
When seeking a long-term relationship, it's important to know if the person across the screen is looking for the same thing. Twenty per cent of the daters revealed that learning about their partner's perspectives and what they seek from a relationship is an intriguing conversation starter. This can stem from the fact that dating has changed phenomenally during the pandemic, and millennials have discovered an impatience with entertaining dead-end connections and instead truly investing in the one with potential. The focus has shifted to discovering romance and compatibility with a potential partner through the quality of conversation and time spent together.
The focus has shifted to discovering romance and compatibility with a potential partner through the quality of conversation and time spent together. | Photo by Stefan Cosma on Unsplash
'What's next on your travel bucket list?'
Travel! The perfect conversation starter to break the ice and transport your date into a dreamy world where you could go wherever you want to -- soaking under the sun by a beach, backpacking across the country, or watching the Northern lights. Travel will open the door to a multitude of other topics such as food, cuisines that your partner is fond of, places that they've been to already or what's on their wishlist. And this just might help you and your date decide where to get a bite in the city or try something that you wouldn't have otherwise!
avel will open the door to a multitude of other topics such as food, cuisines that your partner is fond of. | Photo by Glenn Carstens-Peters on Unsplash
(Article originally written by: N. Lothungbeni Humtsoe) (IANS/ MBI)
Keywords: date, world, virtual, pet, interests, pets, travel, dating
The emotional rollercoaster is one that we ride for life. And sometimes it's a lot less fun than the physical amusement park kind. But over time, we learn to navigate the ups and downs, the twists and turns, and even the loops. Our kids, however, are still new to this ride. So, as the all-knowing, holding-the-secrets-to-life parents, it's our job to hold their hand and help them navigate it.
Here are some handy tips and tricks by Manoj Jain, Director, Scram Kidswear, that cover some of the more common emotions one might come across on this rollercoaster. On today's ride, let's talk about anger.
Anger is instinctual and probably the easiest to surface, especially when you're a tiny human. It's a feeling that our kids will face often, just like we do. It's mostly viewed as a negative emotion and our instinct is to tell our kids that it's bad. But it's as natural as the rest of them. Instead of repressing it, we'd rather teach them how to express it effectively and communicate their feelings, whatever they may be.
Step one: Identify the emotion
For children, recognising emotions isn't as straightforward as it is for us. That's why the first step is to identify the feeling. When you think they're mad, try mimicking their facial expressions and asking them if that's what they're feeling. If it's not, let them tell you how they're feeling about a situation because sometimes they might not be mad at all. In this way, you'll understand their emotions better without invalidating them. And it'll give your little one a chance to correct you if you're wrong (which is going to happen from time to time so don't worry about it).
Step two: Explain the feeling
After both of you are on the same page, explain the feeling to them and the correct ways in which to express it. Try asking them to put their feelings into words instead of actions. Like for example, "I didn't like it when my friend took my toy from me" instead of going full Chucky on their butts (which is pretty fun to watch, if we're being completely honest). But regardless of the reason, gently remind them it's fine to feel this way and their feelings are important to you.
A handy tip to make this easier is to ask them to spot these emotions in the books they read or the things that they watch. Not only will it be a lot more fun, but it'll also help them set a reference point for themselves that they can relate to.
Okay, we're going to level with you. It's easy to break these things down when you're thinking about them logically. But we also know that kids are anything but that. So don't expect an overnight change in the way they express themselves (and don't beat yourself up for it). These things take time and patience and a lot of repetition. There will definitely be a few bumps in the road along the way. But that's a part of the ride. Rollercoasters wouldn't be as fun without all the twists and turns, would they?
Article was originally written by N. Lothungbeni Humtsoe. (IANS/ PJ)
Keywords: Children, Parents, Parenting, Emotions, Understanding
Romance among couples is a bond that is unfiltered and completely divine. The feeling of being wanted and desired is enough to give you goosebumps and when it comes from your love interest, nothing like it! After a while, couples do try a variety of things to reignite the passion among themselves, and how about getting a hot pair of lingerie to get him all excited.
Here's a closer look to know the reasons why lingerie can make your man desire you more. The report is based on a survey conducted by Groversons Paris Beauty among 25,000 of its female buyers from Metropolitan cities like Mumbai, New Delhi-NCR, Chennai, Hyderabad, Kolkata, Pune and Bengaluru.
Appearance leads to confidencewoman in black lace brassiere
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It's a fact that good lingerie enhances the overall appearance and sexy lingerie not only makes you more desirable but also enhances your personality as you dress up in different outfits. Lingerie has the capacity of changing your entire look, so choose smartly. Be it corset, thongs or push-up bras, pick something that you think will catch your partner's eyes and be difficult for him to resist.
Feeling confident is the first most key to achieve anything and 46.22 per cent of Groversons Paris Beauty consumers have confirmed that having a good lingerie collection brings out confidence in them and about 47.76 per cent of consumers like to have a diverse lingerie collection for themselves. Interestingly, red, hot pink and black colours are the most in-demand with 58.12 per cent, 40 per cent and 57.65 per cent votes respectively.
Set yourself and the surroundingswoman sitting on side of bed
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There are times in a relationship where you spend normal boring days without realising the need of some spice and extra in your relationship. If not both, one must think to start putting required efforts to uplift the mood of your partner and your relationship. So, for a woman, adding the spice of a fresh quirky pair of lingerie can solve the purpose. 52.92 per cent of Groversons consumers have stated that their lingerie wear has helped them to get intimate with their partners.
According to Groversons report, about 42.14 per cent of women have stated that having a good lingerie collection helps in adding spice to their erotic lives. Interestingly 58.17 per cent have voted for lacy bras while 49.21 per cent have voted for transparent babydoll lingerie to be their preferred choice.
Bringing out his erotic sidewoman wearing red bra and panty shorts
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Couples who have to keep the passion alive and capture each other's attention, you need sexy lingerie that turns on your partner, bringing out his erotic side as it exposes men to the female world and makes them understand women better.
From plunge bras to lacy, to pretty panties and thongs, one can choose anything to do the trick. A sexy pair of lingerie is like icing on the cake which will definitely world as a perfect dessert.
Speaking from their real-life incidents, 54.25 per cent of women prefer wearing the right kind of lingerie on their special date nights. About 40.81 per cent have stated that it has helped in making their partners feel special as we make extra efforts to keep the spark on.
It makes sense to hold the first date in a comfortable place where both partners will feel at ease. Some key preferences should be considered when arranging a date. They differ from the candidate you have chosen to meet and build a relationship with. If you are having a usual date with the opposite gender, it is preferable to learn some of your partner's tastes and hobbies. It will help you understand what place and what activity to choose for the first date.
If you prefer meeting a partner of another nationality, then an Asian dating site is what you should try and get excited about. A new angle in a relationship always peppers your entire life with new sensations and motivations. When dating Asian lesbians, it should be much easier for you to understand your partner's preferences to make a date fantastic.
But not always it happens as you plan. And you feel like your date is going to fail. Two principal things cause a failed date: whether you didn't make it out with the whole preparation or your partner is unsatisfied with the date. So how to get what exactly goes wrong, and the date is doomed to fail? The following signs, when shown up, let you acknowledge that you are on a failed date.
Sign #1: They stare too much at the phone
This sign definitely determines the disinterest in a partner. It is impolite towards the person. Put it away when dating, try to sneak a glance when you get an urgent message, or go to the bathroom. If you notice that your partner pays more attention to the phone and not you, then it means that you are not their cup of tea. In this case, better to cease the date and be grateful for an opportunity to get a new acquaintance.
Sign #2: Coming late to the date
If you are late for the first date, better not come at all. No matter what well-founded reasons can be, it shouldn't be an excuse for you or your partner to come late for the date. If you appreciate your first date, you will schedule your time to arrive even earlier than it is supposed. Maybe this sign doesn't define anything serious at first sight, but if it repeats regularly, it means your partner is not inspired and passionate about you and vice versa.
Sign #3: They seem pretty pushy
Every person can have their goals for dating, whether a romantic journey through a range of dates or chasing passionate endings of each date. Whatever goal you are to reach, the first date should be special and gradual to reveal some intimate chemistry within each partner. When you see your partner pushy at the beginning of your date, they feel like getting what they want from you. So, don't get mad when it happens. Instead, enjoy the night, and it shows you can't plan anything more with that person.
Sign #4: Selfish talks
Communication between a couple is supposed to be held in two ways, e.i. two people should be engaged in this process. When talking on specific topics, let your partner share their views or experience as well. If you talk too much about yourself, your achievements, and so on, and not notice your partner in silence, it will lead your date to fail and be disappointing. The date is for you to get closer with each other and keep a fantastic communication verbal and non-verbal then.
Sign #5: Having not enough money to cover your half of the bill
When planning a date, one should be prepared from a financial point of view too. So, you should have enough money to cover the bill paid in the restaurant, for example. It is a good gesture from your partner. But you should be ready to pay your part of the order because you go on the first date and don't know who you are expecting to. Even if your partner can't cover the whole bill, you can feel sure you pay for yourself. But then you will have no desire to meet this person again.