Monday December 18, 2017

Age No Bar: Senior Citizens tie Knot in a Matrimonial Meet in Bengaluru

Nuclear families, career pursuits and changing lifestyle have been disrupting the life of senior citizens

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An Elderly Couple. Representational Image. Image source: www.huffingtonpost.com
  • A ‘match-making event’ for the elderly was organised in Bengaluru
  • Human rights activist Uday Kumar highlighted how the elderly parents were being isolated by their children 
  • The Foundation aims to provide a platform for the elder citizens to choose their partner and be able to live together

BENGALURU: Staying young at heart might seem difficult in practice but huge groups of senior citizens in Bengaluru have defied the practicality of the saying by attending an elderly matrimonial meet on Sunday, June 20.

The event, organised by Anubhandana Foundation of Ahmedabad, might be a first of its kind but it has surely received a great response in the city.

“About 250 senior citizens above 50-60 years, including 150 men and 100 women came to the match-making event here. We are moved by the response, as senior citizens, including single, widowed or divorced came in search of a companion,” said Bharatbhai Patel, Anubhandana Foundation member.

The event saw senior citizens stressing the importance of having company in old age and how it is seen as a taboo in the present-day context. Human rights activist Uday Kumar highlighted how “more and more elderly people were being left to fend for themselves or neglected by their kin” and that, irrespective of the status of their ageing parents, the children are often reluctant of taking care of them in old age.

An elderly Indian couple Image Source: Wikimedia Commons
An elderly Indian couple
Image Source: Wikimedia Commons

“Nuclear families, career pursuits and changing lifestyle have been disrupting the life of senior citizens as their sons and daughters leave them behind after education on getting jobs or on getting married and then they live separately in the same city or other cities in India or abroad,” said Patel.

Majority of those who attended the event have been found to be in a financially decent position, belonging to middle class and upper middle class families but the lack of family time and loneliness has forced them to rethink of marriage. For most of the attendees, it is the need of companionship and someone to have around that has made them defy social and caste barriers to marry at this age.

Although the venue was Bengaluru, participants from other areas of Karnataka had made it to the list. In comparison to a 300 when it was last held in January 2014, the response this time was overwhelming with people from Hubbali, Mysuru, Mangaluru and Raichur attending it. The oldest man to attend is aged 78 years and the oldest woman is 55 years of age.

“We are doing our best to ensure single citizens get a compatible person to live with them in the evening of their life and help each other in old age. More than money, its’ care and love that matters the most in old age for such citizens, who live on their own or away from their kin,” said Patel.

About 10 out of all the attendees got engaged at the event while a dozen agreed on meeting again to discuss dates of the wedding. Many others got their details registered to find their suitable partners in various other cities.

The Foundation is known for organising  ‘match-making events’ for the elderly in many cities across the country so that the older generation isn’t deprived of company in their last stage of life.

Foundation secretary Gouri Shankar said the not-for-profit organisation aims “to provide a platform for senior citizens to meet, interact and decide whom to choose as a partner and how soon they would like to live together.”

-By Maariyah Siddique, intern at NewsGram. Twitter:  @MaariyahSid

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  • AJ Krish

    It is true that more than money, care and love matters. It is really good that Anubhandana Foundation of Ahmedabad has taken this initiative to bring the neglected elderly together.

  • Vrushali Mahajan

    This is really a great initiative. When children isolate their parents, they are left with nothing but initiatives like these might bring them back to a state where they start thinking about themselves

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  • AJ Krish

    It is true that more than money, care and love matters. It is really good that Anubhandana Foundation of Ahmedabad has taken this initiative to bring the neglected elderly together.

  • Vrushali Mahajan

    This is really a great initiative. When children isolate their parents, they are left with nothing but initiatives like these might bring them back to a state where they start thinking about themselves

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Amul wishes Anushka Sharma and Virat kohli auspicious wedding

Amul made a pictorial representation in which the Amul girl is adorning Anushka and Virat wishing the newly wed couple for their successful marriage.

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Amul wishes Anushka Sharma and Virat Kohli for their auspicious wedding.
Amul wishes Anushka Sharma and Virat Kohli for their auspicious wedding. IANS
  • Amul’s pictorial representation of wishing Anushka Sharma and Virat Kohli for their wedding

New Delhi, Dec 12: Indian dairy company Amul, through an innovative ad, has wished newly weds cricket star Virat Kohli and actress Anushka.

The company on Tuesday tweeted an advertisement where the little Amul girl is seen dressing Anushka’s character, while Virat’s character is seen holding a plate of bread and butter.

The advertisement reads: “Kohli sajaake rakhna… mehndi lagake rakhna. Amul, Vi Rush for maska.”

It was attached to a post caption: “Amul Topical: Much awaited Indian cricket captain — Bollywood actress marriage!”

Virat and Anushka’s nuptials were a close family affair in Tuscany, Italy on Monday afternoon. It was a hush-hush affair at a luxury heritage resort Borgo Finocchieto, a little over 100 km away from Florence. (IANS)

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Saira Banu celebrates Dilip Kumar’s 95th birthday

A dream of thousands of women to marry the one and only Dilip Kumar and Saira Banu was the luckiest of them all

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Saira Banu celebrating Dilip Kumar's 95th Birthday
Saira Banu celebrating Dilip Kumar's 95th Birthday . IANS
  • Today is Dilip Kumar’s 95th Birthday
  • Saira says how happy she was to marry Dilip Kumar

Mumbai, December 11,2017: On thespian Dilip Kumar’s 95th birthday, his evergreen wife Saira Banu, 22 years his junior, says her marriage to him has been a “perfect dream”.

Dilip Kumar is recuperating from a bout of pneumonia. On his special day, a stream of visitors began trickling into their bungalow in Bandra here from early Monday morning.

Emotional about the love that her husband continues to receive year after year, the utterly devoted wife said: “Every year, I am asked the same things. What are we doing for Saab’s birthday? For those who don’t know, it is the day when our residence turns into a gorgeous fairyland.

“There are flowers everywhere from everyone who comes to pay Saab a visit on his birthday. It is a day when Saab’s brothers, sisters, relatives and come close friends come together.”

Saira Banu and Dilip Kumar got married in 1966.

“Seriously, there is no woman as blessed as I am… I thank my Allah every day for this. It has been my good fortune to be able to do anything for the man I love intensely. For me, it was always Saab, no one else. I was his fan from the time I can remember. While still a teenager, I wanted to be his wife.

“I am very headstrong and once I made up my mind, there was no stopping me. I knew many beautiful women wanted to marry Saab, but he chose me. It was my dream come true and that’s what my marriage has been, a perfect dream.”

Now she is devoted to taking care of her ailing husband.

“Looking after Saab, his life and his home comes naturally to me. All Indian wives look after their husbands. In my family, I’ve seen women being devoted to their husbands. I grew up watching that.”(IANS)

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Bride Sale in India: Buy A Wife Policy

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Human Trafficking
Bride Slavery in India: Abhishek Suresh

Bride Sale: Story of transformation of Indian Bride into Slave Bride

Samridhi Nain

Bride Sale in India seems to be trending in Haryana, a state with the lowest sex ratio, even marriage continues to be a way of exploitation as Indian brides for marriage are purchased at cattle rate and trafficked into the states of Haryana, Uttar Pradesh, and Punjab.
These ‘brides’ are imported from poverty-stricken states like Jharkhand, Bihar, Orrisa, West Bengal & Assam, where the traffickers either take advantage of the family’s poverty or abduct the young girls varying anywhere between the ages of 15 and 30, according to 2013 National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB).
The bride sale practice has been completely normal in the northern states due to the acute shortage of girls because of practices like sex selection and female foeticide. But if the reports are to be believed then even if not a single case of female foeticide takes place in Haryana, it would still take 50 years to get the numbers back to normal from India’s sex ratio today. However, the problem remains as locals & Khap leaders keep refusing to accept the facts at hand. Some believe it is the education of women that is the root problem because they want to marry a man who is also well-educated, whereas some believe that there has always been a shortage of girls but before where one woman would take care of five brothers, now, it requires five separate women to do the same.
As Haryana keeps preferring the male child and that male child grows up to prefer a bride, the best solution available at hand remains of these women who are bought at a price varying on their age, beauty & virginity and once bought, they are turned into a slave bride. Once married, these women can be resold as they are not viewed as a respected member but a commodity as they are not considered to be entitled to any inheritance by the family.
Human Trafficking to Bride Sale
Stencil of Missing Girls Project, Wikimedia Commons
A field study, covering 92 villages of Mahendragarh, Sirsa, Karnal, Sonipat & Mewat districts had been conducted on the impact of the sex ratio on marriage which covered over 10,000 households and found that 9,000 married women were bought from other states. The study was conducted by NGO Drishti Stree Adhyayan Prabodhan Kendra but the families kept denying of any exchange of money for the bride.
In 2016, the ministry of women and child development came up with India’s first comprehensive anti-trafficking laws under ‘Trafficking of Persons (Prevention, Protection & Rehabilitation) Bill, 2016 but the bill faces many challenges and is believed to not achieve its objectives of preventing trafficking & providing protection & rehabilitation to trafficked victims. Activists also believe that the bill will be able to do very little to stop the bride sale.
With such haunting demographics at hand, the hope still remains that sooner or later, the government might realize the need for stringent implementation of the rules & regulations to stop the violation of these young women at the hands of sex traffickers and quell this ‘Buy A Bride’ policy.
-Samridhi is a student of Philosophy Hons. at the University of Delhi.